Jean Zhao

Those of us who were parented in ways that are not supportive to us now can rebuild our own internal structures as we parent our children. We can grow up again at any age. You can use the Structure Chart to help you do that.

Children need a balance of nurture and structure, and so do adults. In the process of learning to provide for our children, we need to learn better nurture and structure skills for ourselves as well.

After we have considered the ways children get or don't get loving care, we will consider adults whose lives lacked or lack healthy care and what they can do to heal themselves. Perhaps the child in you needs extra care and support.