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Ultimately, trying to control the narrative about my own coolness is like trying to throw a football: I cannot do it.

Fear is the answer. I think, at the bottom, I was afraid to get sober. I was afraid that I couldn’t do it, I was afraid that I couldn’t cope with life

⁠Self-seeking, self-centered and dis-honest behaviors were my deeper problems. I have replaced those with striving for honest, pure, unselfish and lo

“It teaches you acceptance, it teaches you tolerance, it teaches you compassion, it teaches you resiliency, and at the end of the day you say, ‘I’ll t

“Spiritual bypassing is a term I coined to describe a process I saw happening in the Buddhist community I was in, and also in myself. Although most of

“I define love thus: The will to extend one's self for the purpose of nurturing one's own or another's spiritual growth.” ― M. Scott Pec

“Dependency may appear to be love because it is a force that causes people to fiercely attach themselves to one another. But in actuality it is not lo

“I have a colleague who often tells people, “Look, allowing yourself to be dependent on another person is the worst possible thing you can do to yours

How the 19th-Century Know Nothing Party Reshaped American Politics

Every time we elevate the lowest-ranking people, we improve the future for everyone else as well, and it’s a whole lot easier to invest in elevating t

In Cry, the Beloved Country Alan Paton wrote:Sorrow is better than fear. Fear is a journey, a terrible journey, but sorrow is at least an arrival. Whe

To be a gardener is to give a fuck. To be a gardener is to be invested in a place—to know it, to protect it, to be present to it. How can we protect a

Regarding anxiety as “just part of the script” helps us see it not as a screaming alarm system we have to heed, but as a phenomenon that simply plays

Our brain reasons, “If I follow the rules and do everything right, I’ll be accepted—or at least not rejected.”

Here’s a revelation: I thought I had stopped dying my hair red, talking to my friends, having a journal, wearing keyhole shirts and chokers, and writi

Our brain reasons, “If I follow the rules and do everything right, I’ll be accepted—or at least not rejected.”