# Recovery
Fear is the answer. I think, at the bottom, I was afraid to get sober. I was afraid that I couldn’t do it, I was afraid that I couldn’t cope with life’s challenges, afraid that I wouldn’t have a safe refuge to hide from the world, that I wouldn’t be able to stay sober and afraid that I really just couldn’t manage to live without drinking.
What Six Years of Sobriety Gets You
Ultimately, trying to control the narrative about my own coolness is like trying to throw a football: I cannot do it.
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preoccupied attachment — always scanning for proof we’re loved, always bracing for abandonment. We’re so used to checking the “supply line” to feel okay — whether that’s alcohol, a person, or constant external validation — that we forget we can carry the reassurance inside us.
Peek-a-Boo: Wait... I Don't See You
But fear is the fire alarm, not the fire. Fear is a response to a perceived threat, not the danger itself. Fear isn’t even always commensurate to the size of the danger. A fire alarm can blare as loud and long for burnt toast as it does for a roaring blaze.
Reader
Richard Rohr, OFM.
“The false self is all the things we pretend to be and think we are. It is the pride, arrogance, title, costume, role, and degree we take to be ourselves. It is what’s passing and what’s going to die, and it is not who we are ,”
“The false self is all the things we pretend to be and think we are. It is the pride, arrogance, title, costume, role, and degree we take to be ourselves. It is what’s passing and what’s going to die, and it is not who we are ,”
Am I the problem in my relationships?
We must change our mind-set from one of self-improvement to one of self-liberation. Self-liberation means freedom from our limiting beliefs, our misguided idea that there is something wrong with us that needs to be “fixed.” Our constant attempts to “get it right” and to be “perfect” leave us in a state of exhaustion, never resting in the present
... See moreI was a Boy Scout. Not a good one. I liked the general idea of being trustworthy and loyal and thrifty and brave and clean and reverent but the effort it took to hang in there with all those weighty virtues was usually more than I cared to muster.
Ordinary Grace
Do the next right thing and the next right thing will happen.
The things that are supposed to happen, generally do happen
The things that are supposed to happen, generally do happen
Sources of Inspiration
the fundamental work of the Steps, understanding ourselves and accepting ourselves in an honest and authentic way.