# Recovery
"True acceptance is very, very, very had; but true acceptance has been the key to my recovery, to my tranquility and happiness. I needed to accept that things, at this particular moment, are exactly as they should be—including me. I had to let go of the idea that it was up to me to traverse the chasm between what I was and what I should have been.... See more
The lie in every alcoholic heart is this:
I need to be something different than who I am in order to make my way in the world.
At first, alcohol helped me make that difficult caterpillar to butterfly transformation., from who I was to who I thought I needed to be. Later on, it helped me forget about the burgeoning distance between what I knew of... See more
I need to be something different than who I am in order to make my way in the world.
At first, alcohol helped me make that difficult caterpillar to butterfly transformation., from who I was to who I thought I needed to be. Later on, it helped me forget about the burgeoning distance between what I knew of... See more
T.B.D. • Into The Distance
It takes time and patience and steady pressure to extract the weed, the negative traits, the damaging and self-destructive ways of thinking. That process, by itself, is a profound act of self-acceptance. The next profound act of self-acceptance is understanding that the job will never be completely done, some traits, some thinking patterns that... See more
T.B.D. • The Right Way to Pull a Weed
The greatest gift of sobriety is recovering the person I was meant to be and getting to spend time with him.
preoccupied attachment — always scanning for proof we’re loved, always bracing for abandonment. We’re so used to checking the “supply line” to feel okay — whether that’s alcohol, a person, or constant external validation — that we forget we can carry the reassurance inside us.
Peek-a-Boo: Wait... I Don't See You
My drinking grew from fearing what the Universe had in store for me; Sobriety has been accepting what the Universe has in store for me.
My drinking grew from fearing what the Universe had in store for me; Sobriety has been accepting what the Universe has in store for me.
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TFLMS
Note to Self: Maybe the real flex is letting people feel, say, and think what they want about you, while you continue living with ease, knowing their projections aren’t yours to carry. Remembering who you are and what your truth is can protect your peace.
Because I can't change a tire. I can't do my taxes. I can't light a grill. I usually can't hang a picture without creating holes the size of silver dollars in the drywall. (But the few times I have done it successfully, man, oh, man, did I feel like I could save us all.) I can't camp. Or ski. Or climb up ladders higher than six feet. I speak no... See more
To the Man Who Is No Longer Afraid
I believe the Steps are more like a spiritual initiation that works toward destroying our old, deluded, self-centered selves so that God and our Sober Elders can put the pieces of our lives back together in the form of a wholly new self.