# Recovery

Richard Rohr, OFM.

“The false self is all the things we pretend to be and think we are. It is the pride, arrogance, title, costume, role, and degree we take to be ourselves. It is what’s passing and what’s going to die, and it is not who we are ,”

Am I the problem in my relationships?

I was a Boy Scout. Not a good one. I liked the general idea of being trustworthy and loyal and thrifty and brave and clean and reverent but the effort it took to hang in there with all those weighty virtues was usually more than I cared to muster.

Ordinary Grace

““The day is to be experienced, not understood!””

— The Book of Awakening: Having the Life You Want by Being Present to the Life You Have by Mark Nepo

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Go to bed earlier. Wake up and move right away. Find sunlight and get in it. Even when you feel tired, go on a walk. Cheer yourself on the entire time. These small shifts are creating an entirely new version of yourself. Commit to them, and you’ll be a different person.

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Drinking helped me be the person I thought people wanted me to be. Recovery helped me find the person I actually was and to live the life I was meant to lead.

Consequences

what I value most in a relationship are, in ever-shifting order, humor, empathy, intelligence, understanding and surprise.

Ben T G • On dudes

preoccupied attachment — always scanning for proof we’re loved, always bracing for abandonment. We’re so used to checking the “supply line” to feel okay — whether that’s alcohol, a person, or constant external validation — that we forget we can carry the reassurance inside us.

# Recovery

Am I the problem in my relationships?

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Consequences

Ben T G • On dudes

Peek-a-Boo: Wait... I Don't See You

Kristen Blanton Crocker • My Sobriety Story With Kristen Blanton Crocker

Song Lyric Sunday: How Could Anyone Ever Tell You