# Recovery
“Spiritual bypassing is a term I coined to describe a process I saw happening in the Buddhist community I was in, and also in myself. Although most of us were sincerely trying to work on ourselves, I noticed a widespread tendency to use spiritual ideas and practices to sidestep or avoid facing unresolved emotional issues, psychological wounds, and... See more
A quote by John Welwood
The lie in every alcoholic heart is this:
I need to be something different than who I am in order to make my way in the world.
At first, alcohol helped me make that difficult caterpillar to butterfly transformation., from who I was to who I thought I needed to be. Later on, it helped me forget about the burgeoning distance between what I knew of... See more
I need to be something different than who I am in order to make my way in the world.
At first, alcohol helped me make that difficult caterpillar to butterfly transformation., from who I was to who I thought I needed to be. Later on, it helped me forget about the burgeoning distance between what I knew of... See more
T.B.D. • Into The Distance
Drinking helped me be the person I thought people wanted me to be. Recovery helped me find the person I actually was and to live the life I was meant to lead.
Consequences
I don’t how shame came to be part of the equation of who I am—but it ran pretty deep. I think that sense of inner shame is pretty common among us alcoholics and addicts; it’s true that drinking and using let us escape other people and external obligations—but it was mostly me that I was running from.
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preoccupied attachment — always scanning for proof we’re loved, always bracing for abandonment. We’re so used to checking the “supply line” to feel okay — whether that’s alcohol, a person, or constant external validation — that we forget we can carry the reassurance inside us.
Peek-a-Boo: Wait... I Don't See You
“Don’t insist that what happens should happen as you wish, wish that things happen as they actually happen then your life will go well.” — Epictetus
Don'T Try This At Home, LLC • Years Go By Fast
What are the biggest benefits or gifts of sobriety?
The greatest benefit, to me, is the ability to handle adversity and joy with the same heart. To know that despair and bliss are feelings and not states of being, and that my feelings won’t make me or break me. The greatest gifts have been my spiritual life and having true relationships
The greatest benefit, to me, is the ability to handle adversity and joy with the same heart. To know that despair and bliss are feelings and not states of being, and that my feelings won’t make me or break me. The greatest gifts have been my spiritual life and having true relationships
C.L. Steiner • My Sobriety Story With C.L.: “Giving Up Was the Key.”
You know it’s okay to need people, right?
To ask for help? We know that a lot of people believe that you should be out here pulling yourself up by your bootstraps but we’d like to propose an alternative: that we put out our hand when we need help, and let someone else do the pulling. And when we’re up and steady, we reach back and offer a hand.
To ask for help? We know that a lot of people believe that you should be out here pulling yourself up by your bootstraps but we’d like to propose an alternative: that we put out our hand when we need help, and let someone else do the pulling. And when we’re up and steady, we reach back and offer a hand.