# Recovery

My body knows — has always known — what I want. The feeling of ease and sinking into, yes. This. This feels right.

In sobriety, I am recalling what my body wants.

What I have to tease out in sobriety is what is a nervous feeling for good reason, and what is a nervous feeling from trauma.

The body knows, my favorite Boundaries Coach Molly Davis... See more

It feels like there are so many contradictory rules: we have to ask questions but also talk about ourselves. We have to be cool but not detached. We have to be smart and informed but not a pretentious know-it-all.

"It lets me be nice to myself, cancel plans, change my mind, be tired, ask for things from other people, and know that I might have different needs from them. By that, other people have different needs from me, and I don't need to feel abandoned by them."

I work with extroverts, people who were never the kid no one wanted to sit next to on the bus

“Brothers, do not be afraid of men’s sin, love man also in his sin, for this likeness of God’s love is the height of love on earth. Love all of God’s creatures, both the whole of it and every grain of sand. Love each leaf, every ray of God’s light. Love animals, love plants, love each thing. If you love each thing, you will perceive the mystery of... See more

what I value most in a relationship are, in ever-shifting order, humor, empathy, intelligence, understanding and surprise.