# Recovery

My body knows — has always known — what I want. The feeling of ease and sinking into, yes. This. This feels right.

In sobriety, I am recalling what my body wants.

What I have to tease out in sobriety is what is a nervous feeling for good reason, and what is a nervous feeling from trauma.

The body knows, my favorite Boundaries Coach Molly Davis... See more

Overcoming the tyranny of choice in sobriety

preoccupied attachment — always scanning for proof we’re loved, always bracing for abandonment. We’re so used to checking the “supply line” to feel okay — whether that’s alcohol, a person, or constant external validation — that we forget we can carry the reassurance inside us.

Peek-a-Boo: Wait... I Don't See You

Be myself, express myself, show myself, that seems like such a basic formula, and so horribly syrup-y that I can hardly believe these words can even be produced on this keyboard. But that basic formula is the foundation of my recovery and has helped me resolve the greatest fear of my life. The fear of being myself and by myself. This may seem... See more

To Thine Own Self be True

We were placed in the middle of adult dysfunction at a very young age. We learned it was our job to focus on others and make things better. We also learned that our needs and wants were not important. It became a habit we carried into adulthood that also kept us from looking at ourselves.

What are the biggest benefits or gifts of sobriety?

The greatest benefit, to me, is the ability to handle adversity and joy with the same heart. To know that despair and bliss are feelings and not states of being, and that my feelings won’t make me or break me. The greatest gifts have been my spiritual life and having true relationships

C.L. Steiner • My Sobriety Story With C.L.: “Giving Up Was the Key.”

The goal is not accumulating the longest list of days of no drinking, the goal is to reclaim a potentially mythical, long-lost treasure. We must leave what we have become accustomed to and strike out in search of something we may not find. It’s the commitment to that goal that is heroic, the willingness to face fears with abandon, to stand at the... See more

T.B.D. • Heroes often fail.

I was a Boy Scout. Not a good one. I liked the general idea of being trustworthy and loyal and thrifty and brave and clean and reverent but the effort it took to hang in there with all those weighty virtues was usually more than I cared to muster.

Ordinary Grace

Ultimately, trying to control the narrative about my own coolness is like trying to throw a football: I cannot do it.

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““The day is to be experienced, not understood!””

— The Book of Awakening: Having the Life You Want by Being Present to the Life You Have by Mark Nepo

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