# Recovery
“Dear Frau V.,
Your questions are unanswerable because you want to know how one ought to live. One lives as one can. There is no single, definite way for the individual which is prescribed for him or would be the proper one. If that’s what you want you had best join the Catholic Church, where they tell you what’s what. Moreover this way fits in with... See more
Your questions are unanswerable because you want to know how one ought to live. One lives as one can. There is no single, definite way for the individual which is prescribed for him or would be the proper one. If that’s what you want you had best join the Catholic Church, where they tell you what’s what. Moreover this way fits in with... See more
A quote by C.G. Jung
That the small decisions add up—in both directions. I can decide to take daily actions that put my needs first, feel incrementally better, and be able to help others. Or, I can put something else first, quickly start to suffer, and become a burden to everyone around me. It’s all so infuriatingly simple.
Every Time We Need to Begin Again
Drinking helped me be who I thought I needed to be and helped me forget the person I actually was.
To Thine Own Self be True
the thing I did that seemed completely impossible at the start was this: I started to live my own life, the one that was meant for me.
I stopped listening to what other people said, I stopped listening to what I imagined people were saying. I stopped listening to the nonsense I said. I started listening to my heart. I stopped pretending and started... See more
I stopped listening to what other people said, I stopped listening to what I imagined people were saying. I stopped listening to the nonsense I said. I started listening to my heart. I stopped pretending and started... See more
substack.com • Chinese Food, Serenity and Five Years of Sobriety
It takes time and patience and steady pressure to extract the weed, the negative traits, the damaging and self-destructive ways of thinking. That process, by itself, is a profound act of self-acceptance. The next profound act of self-acceptance is understanding that the job will never be completely done, some traits, some thinking patterns that... See more
T.B.D. • The Right Way to Pull a Weed
God’s will” for him is that he live a life filled with compassion, love and service.
Prayer and "God's will".
I didn’t begin a life of manipulation and deceit to gain anything other than acceptance. I wasn’t trying to trick anyone out of love or money, or really anything tangible, I just wanted to make them happy. I had come to believe this meant adopting a certain persona, trying to become the thing that each and every person needed and loved, even... See more
I didn’t begin a life of manipulation and deceit to gain anything other than acceptance. I wasn’t trying to trick anyone out of love or money, or really anything tangible, I just wanted to make them happy. I had come to believe this meant adopting a certain persona, trying to become the thing that each and every person needed and loved, even... See more
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classic Adult Child of Alcoholics, afraid of conflict and largely focused on the need for everything to be OK
It's such a gamble when you get a face
Everyone else is having a great time, everyone else knows what to do, everyone else’s life is just better.
I drank for 45 years to try and live like I thought everyone else lived.
I drank for 45 years to try and live like I thought everyone else lived.