# Recovery

Until I gave up my made-up construct for the life I thought I was supposed to be living, I couldn’t begin to live the life that was actually meant for me. Until I let go of everything not meant for me, what was meant for me couldn’t find me.

T.B.D. • What Is Meant for Me... - By T.B.D.

I work with extroverts, people who were never the kid no one wanted to sit next to on the bus

Ben T G • Washing my shirts in hot till I feel swole

“Ho’oponopono” — it centers around 4 phrases, like a mantra, and it goes “I’m sorry, please forgive me, thank you, I love you.”

I was a Boy Scout. Not a good one. I liked the general idea of being trustworthy and loyal and thrifty and brave and clean and reverent but the effort it took to hang in there with all those weighty virtues was usually more than I cared to muster.

Ordinary Grace

But fear is the fire alarm, not the fire. Fear is a response to a perceived threat, not the danger itself. Fear isn’t even always commensurate to the size of the danger. A fire alarm can blare as loud and long for burnt toast as it does for a roaring blaze.

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my character defects — or defaults, as my sponsor likes to call them

AJD • This Is Our Year

is a three-step process that takes you from making a mistake to moving beyond it.

Own your mistake. To do this, say to yourself, “I made a mistake. I’m human. I will take responsibility for it and I will work my way through this.” Then check your emotions. Name what you are feeling.

Show yourself compassion. Think through how this mistake happened.

Just a moment...

But when you believe in this perfect world — not in God, necessarily, but in the crushing beauty of every tiny leaf, every little shimmer of sunshine on water, every faint breeze drifting through the air — you connect with your capacity for love, with your uncanny ability to form new connections and discover new ideas, with your unbelievable... See more

Substack • 'I'm Too Lazy and Mediocre to Deserve the Life I Want!'

Note to Self: Maybe the real flex is letting people feel, say, and think what they want about you, while you continue living with ease, knowing their projections aren’t yours to carry. Remembering who you are and what your truth is can protect your peace.