# Recovery

I drank to avoid: that I have to make myself essential so people won't kick me out or abandon me, that my only value is in how useful or accommodating I can be to other people.

The Small Bow Family Orchestra • Workaholism 101

Accountable people look for solutions, not scapegoats. They blame no one-not even themselves. If a "self-critique" is warranted, they ask QBQs like "What could I have done differently?" and "How can I learn from this experience?

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This is a lifelong process, one that never ends but always begins.

Mark Nepo Dec. 18

How could anyone ever tell you

You were anything less than beautiful

How could anyone ever tell you

You were less than whole

How could anyone fail to notice

That your loving is a miracle

How deeply you’re connected to my Soul...

Song Lyric Sunday: How Could Anyone Ever Tell You

Then, shortly after our daughter Gwen was born, as I understand it goes, my marriage was revealed for what it was. I had a lifelong (and unmanaged) mental health issue, and my husband had an addiction (also unmanaged) to alcohol. Now that we had a baby, we could no longer ignore our unwieldy foundations.

Addiction to Excitement Inner Drug Store 101 Emotional Intoxication

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Defeating the Enemies of Sobriety

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Richard Rohr, OFM.

“The false self is all the things we pretend to be and think we are. It is the pride, arrogance, title, costume, role, and degree we take to be ourselves. It is what’s passing and what’s going to die, and it is not who we are ,”

Am I the problem in my relationships?