Gaia Bachar
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Gaia Bachar
Perfectionism often wears the mask of high standards , ambition , discipline. It parades itself as virtue, a propriety. In reality, it is rarely about the pursuit of excellence but the terror of being perceived as inadequate.
perfectionism is a form of shame
But women also possessed an organ of the highest biological – and social – value: the uterus. Possession of this organ defined the purpose of women: to bear and raise children. Knowledge about female biology centred around women’s capacity – and duty – to reproduce. Being biologically female defined and constrained what it meant to be a woman. And
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I want to be able to seek discomfort. Make things harder on myself. I feel like it would make life so much more enjoyable. But I’m stuck in the same vicious cycle.
once again, I am deeply disgusted that I must first be bad at something in order to get good at it
Internet Peoplesubstack.comI am not sure that I exist, actually.
I am the writers that I have read; the people that I have I have met; the women that I have loved; all the cities I have visited.
— Jorge Luis Borges, 1981
I am the writers that I have read; the people that I have I have met; the women that I have loved; all the cities I have visited.
— Jorge Luis Borges, 1981
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During the Covid pandemic, Pete and I spoke by phone. In the beginning, I made the mistake of trying to advise him about how he could lift his depression. He had earlier gone to Vietnam to perform eye surgeries for those who were too poor to afford them. I told him he should do that again, since he found it so tremendously rewarding. I did not
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You will feel safe and respected with your partner. Your relationship will be loving, honest, and committed. You can experience play, laughter, pleasure, and trust in your relationship. Your partner will be open to learning how to be in conflict together in a healthy way. Your partnership is rooted in a mutual willingness to grow together. Your
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I always come back to the thought that we as women get crushes, feel this limerence, get obsessed when we don’t have enough creative outlets.
My favorite podcast wild geese said “a crush will take you places you wouldn’t go with a gun” and I think about that once a week at least.
So how do I get out of that state of being. How do I get rid of my
... See moreIt is a great mistake to confuse physical strength, dominance, violence, vulgarity, or brutality with masculinity. Masculinity is emotional stability, undaunted integrity, quiet courage, humility, generosity, and capacity for enduring love, or it is nothing.