Becoming the One: Heal Your Past, Transform Your Relationship Patterns, and Come Home to Yourself

You will feel safe and respected with your partner. Your relationship will be loving, honest, and committed. You can experience play, laughter, pleasure, and trust in your relationship. Your partner will be open to learning how to be in conflict together in a healthy way. Your partnership is rooted in a mutual willingness to grow together. Your par

It’s normal to fear change. But do not let your fear hold you hostage. Pack it up, carry it with you if you must. Stare down your own darkness and walk until you see the light.

When you’re integrated, you are the full, embodied expression of your whole, heart-centered you. This is cultivated by reclaiming your right to be vulnerable, sensitive, and attuned to your feelings.

We will always have work to do in a relationship no matter whom we choose, so the question is not “Are they everything I want?” but “Is this the person I’m excited to grow and learn with?”

the message it is trying to give you. We don’t need to ignore, justify, or fix the sensations in our body. Simply learning to be with the discomfort and letting our body move the way it wants to is healing.

all sensations in our body are messages, and that is all you need to know to validate them. It doesn’t matter whether the threat is real or perceived.

Next time a negative thought, criticism, or judgment comes, take a deep breath and ask yourself: What part of me is self-protecting with this judgment? What part of me is trying to control things with this thought? Is this thought coming from love or from fear?

The beautiful thing is, there is so much more depth that can occur when we learn how to be in relationship as a spiritual practice—and over time, the gifts we receive are well beyond the chemical cocktail of pleasure and excitement we feel in the beginning. Part of aligning yourself for the type of relationship you desire is having a clear and dire