evanovich

@evancm

Nerdy yet sturdy, a gay elder millennial at play,

respect how design and tech intersect, programs and projects I direct each day.

I chase personal grace, laced with insight in every space,

as nature’s hidden rapture captures my artful embrace.

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The Spyglass Self:

We develop our identities by glimpsing ourselves through others' eyes, imagining how they see us, adjusting ourselves accordingly. Since personality is a performance in the limelight of another’s gaze, we cannot be someone without someone to be someone for.

“Every problem, every dilemma, every dead end we find ourselves facing in life, only appears unsolvable inside a particular frame or point of view. Enlarge the box, or create another frame around the data, and problems vanish, while new opportunities appear. ”*

Brain Food: Different Resolutions

Actualization via Iteration

Rosamund and Benjamin Zander, on finding the right frame.

When you truly understand something, you can express it at any level of detail while maintaining coherence.

The master can provide the one-sentence version, the paragraph version, and the chapter version, all of which tell the same story at different resolutions. The novice can only repeat what they've memorized at one resolution.

Brain Food: Different Resolutions

Ways of Working

-Shane Parrish

"Don’t aim at success. The more you aim at it and make it a target, the more you are going to miss it. For success, like happiness, cannot be pursued; it must ensue, and it only does so as the unintended side effect of one’s personal dedication to a cause greater than oneself or as the by-product of one’s surrender to a person other than oneself. H... See more

Ways of Working

But…capitalism keeps getting in the way

UNFINISHED

Closure may be a luxury.

Real life does not always wrap things up with a bow.

Some people disappear mid-conversation. Some love ends with a shrug. Some friends drift away, get outgrown, leave without a word.

From a young age, we are groomed with the narrative that says when there is a beginning, there should be an ending.

Beginning, middle, e... See more

Actualization via Iteration and Eggshell

Unfinished by Imi Lo

Here is a process that a shaman lady I know has for reckoning with suppressed anger. Interestingly I find this much more effective than the "hit things while screaming route" which actually now seems like a way to AVOID fully feeling one's rage https://t.co/28XAUD0uA2

Tyler Alterman

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Mental Models

Interesting.

Reflecting on this email from a Sublime believer:

Consuming media has become a massive time-suck for humankind. Only decades ago, the average person had one source of information, if any — the newspaper. Journalists chronicled happenings relevant to their community. And that was it. Someone got married, someone is selling their house, someone died,

Technology

Profound.

I am very affected by place. Actually I think everyone is. Probably more than they realize.

Our surroundings act on us. Some foster chaos, others encourage enchantment. Broad landscapes, beautiful artwork, and ancient architecture fill people with awe. Office buildings with drop ceilings and an unimaginative palette of gray, screeching subways, and... See more

Tommy Dixon • surroundings that speak of enchantment

Technology and Design + Built Env

FUCKING PREACH. I’ve been screaming my head off about this for two decades.