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Being a romantic means being brave. To offer something to someone, with hope — the hope that they will like it. To show someone who you are by making something that only you could make. To be extra, to choose to build something extra. To manifest things that are strange and unexpected and surprising…
These acts can feel wildly vulnerable and... See more
These acts can feel wildly vulnerable and... See more
We blunt romance and passion with this constant calculation of risk, this paranoid scanning for threats, and by holding back to avoid being hurt. We encourage each other to be emotionally absent, unfazed, uncaring. We even call it empowerment! It’s not. It’s neuroticism. I think we are a generation absolutely terrified of getting hurt and doing all... See more
Freya India • Risk-Aversion Is Killing Romance - By Freya India - GIRLS
Good conversation tips:
“If we had 5 mins left, what would you want to have had covered” gets to the meat earlier
“Putting aside a list of pros/cons, what’s the one reason you’re doing this?” “Why is that the most important reason?”
“What would the best version of yourself do”?
When someone confronts you w/ a problem they have with you
What I heard was
if ur feeling brave 😅
instagram.comI lol’d thinking about all the times I’ve fallen into this trap. As a pastor, people do this to me all the time when they find out I’m a christian: they immediately share the most relevant spiritual thing they can think of. I graciously connect but a better follow up would be a curiosity, even if that risks being “taboo.”
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Over time I’ve learned that your best next question is hidden in the subject’s answer to your last question. I’ve interviewed thousands of people as a journalist, podcaster, and investor, and in that time the best interviews are the ones that morph into conversations.