Sandy Yacoub
@didyoublush
Sandy Yacoub
Path from Negotiation → Unburdening (with Self Energy focus)
Step 1: Strengthen Self Presence
– Notice when a part is speaking (Protector, Striver, Critic, Yearner).
– Instead of blending with it (“I am ashamed”), say: “I notice my Critic is loud right now.”
– That separation is how Self creates space. Self energy is calm, curious, compassionate—it... See more
Step 1: Strengthen Self Presence
– Notice when a part is speaking (Protector, Striver, Critic, Yearner).
– Instead of blending with it (“I am ashamed”), say: “I notice my Critic is loud right now.”
– That separation is how Self creates space. Self energy is calm, curious, compassionate—it... See more
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It’s the intolerance of liminality. Your system doesn’t yet trust that you can survive the stretch between safety and engagement without something collapsing. Which is why smoking, meds, or Uber all become shortcuts—they erase the in-between.
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Walk visit and Becoming
If the Critic only attacks the Protector, then the real healing work isn’t about silencing the Critic entirely—it’s about translating its panic . Underneath, the Critic is saying: “I’m terrified the Protector’s avoidance will cost us the life we’re trying to build.” That fear is valid. The method (shaming) isn’t.
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"the question of whether a computer can think is no more interesting than the question of whether a submarine can swim."
- edsger dijkstra
Daily Page Layout
1. Sleep Log (top of page)
🛏️ Bed / Asleep / Wake-ups / Wake time
Example: “11:30 / 1:00 / up at 4–6 / woke 8:30”
2. Threshold Reps
🚪 Did I cross the door today? Y/N
🚇 Commute tolerance (mins or classes sat through)
Example: “Walk → train → 1 class = 2 reps”
3. Facts vs. Meaning
✏️ Fact: _____________________
💭 Meaning I added:... See more
1. Sleep Log (top of page)
🛏️ Bed / Asleep / Wake-ups / Wake time
Example: “11:30 / 1:00 / up at 4–6 / woke 8:30”
2. Threshold Reps
🚪 Did I cross the door today? Y/N
🚇 Commute tolerance (mins or classes sat through)
Example: “Walk → train → 1 class = 2 reps”
3. Facts vs. Meaning
✏️ Fact: _____________________
💭 Meaning I added:... See more
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Daily Log
PEP Bakehouse and Coffee Shop 1601 Gravesend Neck Rd
Daily Parts Watchlist
1. Striver (Achiever)
☐ Did I keep my goals enough-sized instead of everything-sized?
☐ Did I stop after the minimum win (1 reading, 1 wall layer, 1 meal)?
2. Critic (Self-Doubter)
☐ Did I catch the shift from helpful feedback → shame?
☐ Did I reframe “not enough” into “what was useful today?”
3. Protector of Comfort
☐ Did I... See more
1. Striver (Achiever)
☐ Did I keep my goals enough-sized instead of everything-sized?
☐ Did I stop after the minimum win (1 reading, 1 wall layer, 1 meal)?
2. Critic (Self-Doubter)
☐ Did I catch the shift from helpful feedback → shame?
☐ Did I reframe “not enough” into “what was useful today?”
3. Protector of Comfort
☐ Did I... See more