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If you are fortunate or unfortunate enough to wonder:
“What should I spend my time working on?”
Then perhaps a better question is:
“Where am I most afraid to fail?”
When we’re avoiding some path because failure would destroy us, that’s often the path we need to go down.
Because if we aren’t afraid of failing, do we really care at all?
“What should I spend my time working on?”
Then perhaps a better question is:
“Where am I most afraid to fail?”
When we’re avoiding some path because failure would destroy us, that’s often the path we need to go down.
Because if we aren’t afraid of failing, do we really care at all?
Nat Eliason • Most Afraid to Fail
Things that are most fulfilling are hard to start, easy to quit. Things that are least fulfilling are easy to start, hard to quit.
Every. Single. Time.
we always plan for perfect futures.
instead, plan in day-tight compartments.
"the days are long, but the years are short."
✨ what would your perfect day look like?
strive for that, everyday. & the future will become perfect by... See more
The thing I’ve learned over time is that friendships are not fungible—no two people are the same, obviously, but also you can’t replicate the experience of someone knowing you through a particular era of your life. You can never go back to that period of your life; you can never replace the people who witnessed you and supported you. To me,... See more
friends shape your identity
Most people’s mental models of energy are flawed: they think there’s a ‘tank’ of energy that gets depleted as you spend it. This may be roughly true for physical energy, but mental energy is different: spending mental energy on things that you consider productive or important gives you more mental energy for other things: a positive feedback loop.... See more
nabeelqu.co • Advice That Actually Worked for Me
TIP ONE: ASK DEEP QUESTIONS
A deep question asks someone about their values, beliefs or experiences. Rather than asking someone about the facts of their life (“Where do you live?”) it asks how they feel about their life. (“What’s the best part of where you live?”) Studies show that people love answering deep questions, because it gives us a chance... See more
A deep question asks someone about their values, beliefs or experiences. Rather than asking someone about the facts of their life (“Where do you live?”) it asks how they feel about their life. (“What’s the best part of where you live?”) Studies show that people love answering deep questions, because it gives us a chance... See more
Susan Cain • How to turn "small talk" into Big Talk
Possibly the most counterintuitive thing in life is that if you’re tired, you can work out to gain more energy.
One of the most intelligent case studies in design is the Chinese tea cup. They’re made without handles simply because if it’s too hot to touch, it’s too hot to drink.
Humans naturally want to add more. Add a cardboard sleeve, add a warning on the outside of the cup, add a handle. The result of all these things never cools down the actual contents.
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