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The thing I’ve learned over time is that friendships are not fungible—no two people are the same, obviously, but also you can’t replicate the experience of someone knowing you through a particular era of your life. You can never go back to that period of your life; you can never replace the people who witnessed you and supported you. To me, relinqu... See more
friends shape your identity
One of the most intelligent case studies in design is the Chinese tea cup. They’re made without handles simply because if it’s too hot to touch, it’s too hot to drink.
Humans naturally want to add more. Add a cardboard sleeve, add a warning on the outside of the cup, add a handle. The result of all these things never cools down the actual contents.
... See moreHow we spend our days is, of course, how we spend our lives. What we do with this hour, and that one, is what we are doing. A schedule defends from chaos and whim. It is a net for catching days. It is a scaffolding on which a worker can stand and labor with both hands at sections of time.
— Annie Dillard, ’The Writing Life’, 1989
If you do not know what you want, start with what you’re most afraid of. You might not know what you desire, but absolutely everyone knows what scares them. What is the opposite of that fear? What is the alternative outcome to your worst-case scenario? What is the best possible outcome for the thing that scares you most? That is what you want.
Brianna Wiest • When You're Ready, This Is How You Heal
“For a few weeks, I started each morning by writing “What do I actually want?” at the top of a blank page.
It’s surprising how useful it is to keep asking the same question. Each time, my answer became more precise.
Once I knew what I wanted, I turned it into action steps.”
It’s surprising how useful it is to keep asking the same question. Each time, my answer became more precise.
Once I knew what I wanted, I turned it into action steps.”
jamesclear.com • 3-2-1: On attracting luck, taking risks, and the ineffectiveness of anger | James Clear
Possibly the most counterintuitive thing in life is that if you’re tired, you can work out to gain more energy.
a checklist to get through anything
patriciamou.com
Things that are most fulfilling are hard to start, easy to quit. Things that are least fulfilling are easy to start, hard to quit.
Every. Single. Time.
TIP ONE: ASK DEEP QUESTIONS
A deep question asks someone about their values, beliefs or experiences. Rather than asking someone about the facts of their life (“Where do you live?”) it asks how they feel about their life. (“What’s the best part of where you live?”) Studies show that people love answering deep questions, because it gives us a chance ... See more
A deep question asks someone about their values, beliefs or experiences. Rather than asking someone about the facts of their life (“Where do you live?”) it asks how they feel about their life. (“What’s the best part of where you live?”) Studies show that people love answering deep questions, because it gives us a chance ... See more