✨ live the life you really want

Most people’s mental models of energy are flawed: they think there’s a ‘tank’ of energy that gets depleted as you spend it. This may be roughly true for physical energy, but mental energy is different: spending mental energy on things that you consider productive or important gives you more mental energy for other things: a positive feedback loop. ... See more

“For a few weeks, I started each morning by writing “What do I actually want?” at the top of a blank page.

It’s surprising how useful it is to keep asking the same question. Each time, my answer became more precise.

Once I knew what I wanted, I turned it into action steps.”

If you are fortunate or unfortunate enough to wonder:

“What should I spend my time working on?”

Then perhaps a better question is:

“Where am I most afraid to fail?”

When we’re avoiding some path because failure would destroy us, that’s often the path we need to go down.

Because if we aren’t afraid of failing, do we really care at all?

Often, there’s a desire to cling onto how we thought life should go, sometimes until it outweighs the reality of how it is going — what makes us happy, versus what we feel should; what is truly stimulating or fulfilling, versus what we’ve been told should be chased and sacrificed for. A question I ponder is: How do we untether ourselves from the pe... See more