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TIP ONE: ASK DEEP QUESTIONS
A deep question asks someone about their values, beliefs or experiences. Rather than asking someone about the facts of their life (“Where do you live?”) it asks how they feel about their life. (“What’s the best part of where you live?”) Studies show that people love answering deep questions, because it gives us a chance ... See more
A deep question asks someone about their values, beliefs or experiences. Rather than asking someone about the facts of their life (“Where do you live?”) it asks how they feel about their life. (“What’s the best part of where you live?”) Studies show that people love answering deep questions, because it gives us a chance ... See more
Susan Cain • How to turn "small talk" into Big Talk
Most people’s mental models of energy are flawed: they think there’s a ‘tank’ of energy that gets depleted as you spend it. This may be roughly true for physical energy, but mental energy is different: spending mental energy on things that you consider productive or important gives you more mental energy for other things: a positive feedback loop. ... See more
nabeelqu.co • Tips for Productivity, Thinking, and Doing
“The ‘bad' workouts are often the most important ones.
It's easy to train when you feel good, but it’s crucial to show up when you don’t feel like it—even if you do less than you hope.
Going to gym for 5 minutes might not transform your body, but it does reaffirm your identity.”
It's easy to train when you feel good, but it’s crucial to show up when you don’t feel like it—even if you do less than you hope.
Going to gym for 5 minutes might not transform your body, but it does reaffirm your identity.”
James Clear • 3 Ideas, 2 Quotes, 1 Question (November 28, 2019) | James Clear
Possibly the most counterintuitive thing in life is that if you’re tired, you can work out to gain more energy.
“For a few weeks, I started each morning by writing “What do I actually want?” at the top of a blank page.
It’s surprising how useful it is to keep asking the same question. Each time, my answer became more precise.
Once I knew what I wanted, I turned it into action steps.”
It’s surprising how useful it is to keep asking the same question. Each time, my answer became more precise.
Once I knew what I wanted, I turned it into action steps.”
jamesclear.com • 3-2-1: On attracting luck, taking risks, and the ineffectiveness of anger | James Clear
If you are fortunate or unfortunate enough to wonder:
“What should I spend my time working on?”
Then perhaps a better question is:
“Where am I most afraid to fail?”
When we’re avoiding some path because failure would destroy us, that’s often the path we need to go down.
Because if we aren’t afraid of failing, do we really care at all?
“What should I spend my time working on?”
Then perhaps a better question is:
“Where am I most afraid to fail?”
When we’re avoiding some path because failure would destroy us, that’s often the path we need to go down.
Because if we aren’t afraid of failing, do we really care at all?
Nat Eliason • Most Afraid to Fail
If you do not know what you want, start with what you’re most afraid of. You might not know what you desire, but absolutely everyone knows what scares them. What is the opposite of that fear? What is the alternative outcome to your worst-case scenario? What is the best possible outcome for the thing that scares you most? That is what you want.
Brianna Wiest • When You're Ready, This Is How You Heal
Often, there’s a desire to cling onto how we thought life should go, sometimes until it outweighs the reality of how it is going — what makes us happy, versus what we feel should; what is truly stimulating or fulfilling, versus what we’ve been told should be chased and sacrificed for. A question I ponder is: How do we untether ourselves from the pe... See more
Rainesford Stauffer • It’s Okay to Outgrow the Life You Thought You Wanted
The thing I’ve learned over time is that friendships are not fungible—no two people are the same, obviously, but also you can’t replicate the experience of someone knowing you through a particular era of your life. You can never go back to that period of your life; you can never replace the people who witnessed you and supported you. To me, relinqu... See more