When You're Ready, This Is How You Heal

We cannot hate ourselves into lives we will love.

Remember that when other people judge, it’s a projection of an issue they have with themselves, in the same way that your worst judgments of other people are projections of issues you have with yourself. In this way, you can start seeing the origins of your problems less as personal attacks against you and more as, just, you being collateral for so

If you feel haunted by the loss of a relationship, you are not upset because someone is no longer in your life. You are mourning one idea you had about what your future would look like, and what it means about you that one person you saw in it is no longer there. The idea that you can “lose” a relationship comes from the idea that you can also “win

It is not that your life can never be exciting, just that most of us are under the unrealistic delusion that everything must be a peak experience all of the time. This leads us to a process of constantly uprooting, which is the self-sabotaging behavior of planting seeds, sprouting them, and then starting all over again. What we need is not always t

You don’t look out at the sunrise and wonder if every ray is expressing itself to its fullest potential. You don’t criticize the rainstorm for not releasing every drop precisely over the driest ground. You don’t sum up other people by how perfectly they do every last thing in their lives. It’s their simple presence that makes all of these things be

You are not meant for the people who leave you, you are not always at fault for the people who have left, and you are not broken for those who have faded into the distance. Embracing the ebb and flow of life, and the impermanence of it all, is the way you will learn to love people when you have them and be grateful for them when you don’t.

Do you want to arrange your existence so that it would be impossible for anyone to say anything negative about it, or do you want to live with so much joy spilling out from inside you that it renders such opinions meaningless either way?

Maybe what you really need is the courage to continue, even though the path is no longer new and exciting. Maybe what you need is the resolve to keep stepping forward, even though the process has lost its glimmer, and it has instead been replaced with monotony and routine.

The truth about perfection is that we only want it so that others might not hurt us for the lack of it.