Kayoung Heo

The goal isn’t to write perfectly; it’s to refine your own signal. To get closer to what you actually mean. Some of the posts I’ve been proudest of were the ones no one really read. They didn’t go viral. They didn’t drive subscribers. But they marked an internal shift. I figured something out. I articulated a thought I’d been carrying around for... See more

“What I’m trying to protect now is presence. The ability to have an experience without immediately narrativizing it for an audience. To feel what I feel without calculating how it would perform. To say “this isn’t for public consumption” and mean it. To have a self that exists outside of how it’s perceived.”

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“I wasn’t having the experience, I was producing content about the experience.”

The cost of turning your life into content—and how I finally crashed out

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“The whole point of what I was doing—what I’d gotten really, really good at doing—was making sure nobody ever knew. The performance was the product. The life was just the raw material I mined for content.”

The cost of turning your life into content—and how I finally crashed out

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“By the time you finally act, you’re not just dealing with the original task anymore. You’re dealing with the accumulated weight of all the stories you’ve told yourself about it, all the shame of having waited, all the anxiety about whether it’s too late, all the self-recrimination about why you let it get this bad. The task itself hasn’t... See more

“Most procrastination is not laziness but a nervous system protective response, an automatic mechanism designed to keep you safe from what your body perceives as psychic disruption.”

avoidance is a payment plan with compound interest

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“We tell ourselves we’re just putting something off. Buying time. Waiting for the right moment, the right mood, the right alignment of stars and neurochemistry. But avoidance doesn’t work like a pause button. It works like a loan, and the terms are terrible.”

avoidance is a payment plan with compound interest

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