Crystal
@crystalwrites
Crystal
They said choice would taste like freedom, but not that it’s an addictive sweetness. One that rots the stomach, until even our gut-instincts lose their sense of direction. We do not just suffer from an abundance of options, we suffer from a lack of commitment.
And I do not want more doors—I want to walk through one without looking back. I want to... See more
And I do not want more doors—I want to walk through one without looking back. I want to... See more
amber. • the hunger to be everything.
You’re doomscrolling because you’re looking for something to transform you but you can’t stay with one thing for long enough to be transformed by it. You have short attention span on an existential scale. You’re gliding past thousands of small worlds in minutes, laughing at one post, feeling dread at the next, tempted to buy something right after.... See more
Sherry Ning • You’re bored because you don’t love anything
We may have to go back as far as childhood to ask: What did I really enjoy doing? When did I feel most alive? There may be clues to what our future should be in the way we used to play as small children, when impressing and earning money were far from our minds.
Alain de Botton • A Therapeutic Journey
But I have lost myself in a million other people. I’m no longer fluent in my own language. I’ve consumed so many dreams that weren’t mine, I don’t recognise the hunger of my own longing.
This isn’t freedom. It’s erosion. This is the slow disintegration of self beneath the illusion that we can be anything, everything, all at once.
This isn’t freedom. It’s erosion. This is the slow disintegration of self beneath the illusion that we can be anything, everything, all at once.
amber. • the hunger to be everything.
At a certain point we’re gonna have to build up some machinery, inside our guts, to help us deal with this. Because the technology is just gonna get better and better and better and better. And it’s gonna get easier and easier and more and more convenient, and more and more pleasurable, to be alone with images on a screen, given to us by by people
... See moreThe 60 Second Decision Filter
Step 1. Name the decision plainly.
Say it in one sentence.
“I am deciding whether to ___.”
If you cannot name it cleanly, you are not deciding yet. You are circling.
Step 2. Classify it.
Ask one question only.
Will this matter in one year?
If no, this is a low consequence decision. Decide immediately.
If yes, continue.
Most... See more
Step 1. Name the decision plainly.
Say it in one sentence.
“I am deciding whether to ___.”
If you cannot name it cleanly, you are not deciding yet. You are circling.
Step 2. Classify it.
Ask one question only.
Will this matter in one year?
If no, this is a low consequence decision. Decide immediately.
If yes, continue.
Most... See more
ChatGPT
chatgpt
What if I told you this hunger to endure everything, this ceaseless reaching, this need to feel something more, is not curiosity, but self-exile? Somewhere along the way, you began to believe that living meant becoming exceptional; being seen; being chosen. That it meant consuming everything the world offers.
But you were only ever meant to come... See more
But you were only ever meant to come... See more
amber. • the hunger to be everything.
The hunger to be everything was only ever a longing to be loved.
But you were always worthy.
Even as just one true, marvellous thing:
yourself .
—i know you’ll learn to live for yourself, amber.
But you were always worthy.
Even as just one true, marvellous thing:
yourself .
—i know you’ll learn to live for yourself, amber.
amber. • the hunger to be everything.
why do I (crystal) struggle to make decisions sometimes? What can I do to become a better, faster decision maker?
Crystal, people who struggle with decisions are usually not weak, confused, or indecisive by nature. They are careful, perceptive, and relational. The trouble comes from how your nervous system learned to keep you safe.
Here is what is... See more
Crystal, people who struggle with decisions are usually not weak, confused, or indecisive by nature. They are careful, perceptive, and relational. The trouble comes from how your nervous system learned to keep you safe.
Here is what is... See more