yearning
the constant tug between solitude and company, the desire to love so desperately and simultaneously be detached from it all, of wanting everything and wanting nothing
You’ve been duped into thinking you can create a life without danger, one liberated from constraints and uncomfortable emotions, and that such a life is desirable. But you can’t, and it’s not. If you connect with someone and it comes with the risk of losing something, good. You’re alive!
Freya India • Risk-Aversion Is Killing Romance - By Freya India - GIRLS
Only dead things are certain. Everything that is alive dances in different degrees of uncertainty.
“Longing is nothing without its dangerous edge, that cuts and wounds us while setting us free and beckons us exactly because of the human need to invite the right kind of peril. The foundational instinct that we are here essentially to risk ourselves in the world, that we are a form of invitation to others and to otherness, that we are meant to
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when I think about what the "right kind of peril" is, I'm thinking about my tendency to crave yearning of someone, not where it's so painful that you can't cope, but where you're in this lukewarm centre which keeps you warm but doesn't break you. it's this limbo state where you're in pain of yearning someone / something that you can't have but
... See morethe right kind of peril when you’re in love with someone who doesn’t love you back - where you don’t want to let go of them because then you’d be choosing grief, choosing to lose them, choosing to grieve them. but also by not moving on you’re grieving that person every day. every time you look at them, you’re grieving that that person will never be
... See moreWhat makes letting go so challenging is that we need to let go of far more than mere emotional pain—we need to let go of hope, of the fantasy in which we undo what went wrong, of the psychological presence the person or pet has in our daily thoughts, and thus, in our lives. We need to truly say good-bye—to turn away from love, even when there is no
... See moreGuy Winch • How to Fix a Broken Heart (TED Books)
Learning is downstream of doing. The order should rarely be reversed. Most real knowledge, knowledge worth attaining, lives in the hands . It must be cultivated gradually, like a garden. Really, it must be grown. Most real knowledge is the result of doing something deliberately for a long time and steadily making small improvements. It requires a... See more
Do what you can't
how to love
To let go, when you know you have to is like choosing both grief and hope. Hope that you have control over your life, hope that there is something that is more in alignment for you out there. But you are giving up the possibility of the known joy. There must have been something you are letting go of that is meaningful and beautiful. Letting go, for
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