in my (not so fun) feels
Natalie Audelo and
in my (not so fun) feels
Simplify Simplify Simplify
The only things I allow myself to feel regret about are past food, clothing, and hair choices. Everything else, I think of as part of my path, my journey. All the steps we’ve taken have led us to where we are. For some reason, in this culture, we always want to win, be right, comfortable, and happy. There is, however, tremendous value in losing, in... See more
Nana-Ama Danquah Tells Us
Bruce Springsteen and Cognitive Re-framing
On May 2, 1972, Bruce Springsteen auditioned for the record producer John Hammond. Hammond had signed icons like Bob Dylan and Aretha Franklin—two of Springsteen’s heroes. “I would’ve been in a state of complete panic," Springsteen said, "except on the way up in the elevator, I performed a little mental
... See moreHuman anxiety comes from unpredictable environments and fear of anticipated pain.
According to research from 2020 in the journal Behavior Therapy , 91 percent of the things studied participants worried about did not come to pass. This means that for every bad thing that happens, chronic worriers suffer for 10. If nothing else, this is a colossal waste of valuable time, and we should all find ways to avoid it.
Arthur C. Brooks • How to Worry Less and Be Happier
Someone has to tell these kids, “wherever you go, you’ll find yourself there, and you have to start to do the work of accepting who you are, as much as you may not like yourself.” The stakes are high.
Freddie DeBoer • You Are You. We Live Here. This Is Now.
Boredom is just “What’s the use?” in disguise. And “What’s the use?” is fear, and fear means you are secretly in despair. So put your fears on the page.
Julia Cameron • The Artist's Way: A Spiritual Path to Higher Creativity
So, on your worry list, write down the best outcome for each problem, the worst outcome, and the most likely outcome. Then add what you would do in each instance. This makes the source of worry specific and gives you a management plan.