Wellness

In order to know your needs, you need to be in a parasympathetic state, where you feel safe in your body and environment. You

Just draw a circle on a page and inside the circle you’re going to write all the people, activities, and places and memories that really serve you and bring you the most feelings of relaxation, safety, connection, love, and peace. And on the outside, you’re going to write all the things that are Currently, in your life, there are things that don't

Needs start in the body and we need to learn to attune to the body more deeply.

“A ‘want’ is something that you would prefer to have, or like to have, but you can be okay without,” says Dr. Jordan. “This means that if you don’t get whatever this is, you will not hold a grudge or feel severely hurt.”

“A ‘need’ is essentially a dealbreaker, something that you cannot negotiate on because you have very, very strong feelings about it

“healing” became less about connection and more about control. Less about understanding ourselves, and more about explaining ourselves; justifying every boundary, every reaction, every ~vibe shift~ with a diagnosis.

What is the number one thing that everyone is looking for in a relationship? Certainty.

This state of not knowing your needs starts in the body and in the nervous system.