arguably quickest way to feel safe

in your body is to borrow from someone else's nervous system and co-regulate with them who's grounded in their nervous system. So, hire a great therapist or a coach or lean into friendships where you feel truly comfortable with that person. And if you can be in contact with them physically, ask them to help you

learn self- soothing skills. These are simple practices like holding yourself, giving yourself a hug, breathing deeply, any pranayama

This state of not knowing your needs starts in the body and in the nervous system.

Just draw a circle on a page and inside the circle you’re going to write all the people, activities, and places and memories that really serve you and bring you the most feelings of relaxation, safety, connection, love, and peace. And on the outside, you’re going to write all the things that are Currently, in your life, there are things that don't

Needs start in the body and we need to learn to attune to the body more deeply.

In order to know your needs, you need to be in a parasympathetic state, where you feel safe in your body and environment. You