Raising children
Wir sind so oft nicht wirklich präsent, weil wir andere Dinge im Kopf haben. Wenn unsere Kinder uns eine Frage stellen und wir gar nicht so richtig zuhören, da sagen wir vielleicht, war ja nicht so wichtig. Aber wenn das immer wieder geschieht, verpassen wir plötzlich einige der wichtigsten Momente im Leben unserer Kinder und damit auch unseres Leb
... See moreJan Schwenkenbecher • Jon Kabat-Zinn: "Achtsamkeit Ist Eine Superkraft" | ZEIT ONLINE
It is a sign of the supreme wisdom of small children that they have no shame or compunction about bursting into tears. They have a more accurate and less pride-filled sense of their place in the world than a typical adult: They know that they are only extremely small beings in a hostile and unpredictable realm, that they can’t control much of what
... See moreAlain de Botton • A Therapeutic Journey
Denn wenn unsere Kinder ein allzu perfektes Bild von uns Eltern vorgelebt bekommen, so argumentiert die Elternberaterin, desto mehr können sie dazu neigen, sich selbst unter Druck zu setzen. Jetzt und später in ihrem Leben. "Je mehr Eltern sich dagegen verletzlich zeigen", sagt sie, "je häufiger sie sagen: ‚Ich kann nicht mehr‘ oder
... See moreJohannes Ehrmann • Perfektionismus in Der Erziehung: Warum Es Mehr Passt-Schon-Eltern Braucht
Sometimes when you listen closely to your body, the message you hear is a call not for food, but for fasting. You may observe this in animals, which abstain from food when sick, and in young children, who sometimes go days eating hardly anything at all (much to the consternation of their parents!).
Charles Eisenstein • The Yoga of Eating - Transcending Diets and Dogma to Nourish the Natural Self
The attachment we have to an individual can supersede an overall decrease in our quality of life, and so the love we usually have toward our children means that our choice to bring them into existence has value above and beyond whatever effect they have on our happiness.
Paul Bloom • What Becoming a Parent Really Does to Your Happiness
value above mere happiness
The one thing parents can do for their children is live their lives as fully as they can, for this will open the children’s imagination, grant permission to them to have their own journey, and open the doors of possibility for them. Wherever we are stuck, they will have a tendency to be stuck also or will spend their life trying to overcompensate.
... See moreJames Hollis • Living an Examined Life
“The one thing parents can do for their children is live their lives as fully as they can, for this will open the children’s imagination, grant permission to them to have their own journey, and open the doors of possibility for them. Wherever we are stuck, they will have a tendency to be stuck also or will spend their life trying to overcompensate.
... See moreThe writer Zadie Smith puts it better than I ever could, describing having a child as a “strange admixture of terror, pain, and delight.” Smith, echoing the thoughts of everyone else who has seriously considered these issues, points out the risk of close attachments: “Isn’t it bad enough that the beloved, with whom you have experienced genuine joy,
... See morePaul Bloom • What Becoming a Parent Really Does to Your Happiness
Something must an invaluable blessing , if the prospect of losing it appears like hell on earth.