notes for therapy
Dissociation: The making of a new, cut-off self, to hold the deadly, disorganizing pain away from the ongoing growth of the logical, goal-directed watching self, the one we need to help us master the world, the one that keeps us safe, the one that knows danger. We have to preserve that left-brain self, so we encode the very strong negative memory
... See moreDon Kerson • Getting Unstuck; Unravelling the Knot of Depression Attention and Trauma
I married a wonderful man at the age of 48, went back to school at 50, got a Masters’ and license as an MFT at the age of 56, and published my first book at 86.
Patricia Rosssubstack.comI hadn’t realized how prevalent dissociative states were in people.
Stephen W. Porges • The Pocket Guide to the Polyvagal Theory: The Transformative Power of Feeling Safe (Norton Series on Interpersonal Neurobiology)
We might ‘dissociate’ and do the opposite: we check out, numb ourselves, engage in escapism, or fixate harder on connecting with others. In a state of dissociation, it is hard to advocate for our needs, our boundaries, and our limits. In addition, many of us have excellent auto-pilot functions and masking skills for when we dissociate, which can... See more
The Radical Guide to Being Your Own Primary Partner | Radical Relating
Sometimes, I think silence used to be quieter. Before we were all online, before updates and photo dumps and “seen” receipts and Instagram stories that tell you someone’s alive, even if they’re no longer in your life. Back then, silence was space. Now it’s static. It’s the absence of a ping that should’ve come. The profile you could check, but... See more
