notes for therapy
very difficult sometimes to distinguish between "is this a hard thing I'm supposed to work through" or "is it hard because it's the wrong thing and I need to let go"
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We might ‘dissociate’ and do the opposite: we check out, numb ourselves, engage in escapism, or fixate harder on connecting with others. In a state of dissociation, it is hard to advocate for our needs, our boundaries, and our limits. In addition, many of us have excellent auto-pilot functions and masking skills for when we dissociate, which can... See more
The Radical Guide to Being Your Own Primary Partner | Radical Relating
I don’t believe people want to be told how to live their lives. What we really want is to renounce the responsibility that comes from choosing wrong, making mistakes, and being the perpetrators of pain, self-inflicted and done to others.
“I literally have no advice for myself. I ate that. That little girl is exactly who she needed to be.”
- Doechii, on her advice for her younger self
Dissociation: The making of a new, cut-off self, to hold the deadly, disorganizing pain away from the ongoing growth of the logical, goal-directed watching self, the one we need to help us master the world, the one that keeps us safe, the one that knows danger. We have to preserve that left-brain self, so we encode the very strong negative memory
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