The practice

from the very first conversation, all the way through the medicine and the integrations, you are creating a container where a person feels like you are solid in your integrity, and want the best for them. If you’re willing to call them on some of their shadow as well as enhance and lean into their light, it will create a container that allows them... See more

The point is, when we try to give and receive simultaneously, we end up doing neither deeply. We skim the surface of intimacy, of sensuality, never letting it pull us under into its fullness. The Wheel of Consentis about disentangling a couple’s surface-level merging, revealing a deeper intimacy—two people, present in themselves, separate yet... See more

When I learned to let my skin speak in these four ways, it was so subtly radical, it rearranged me. It was simple. It was accessible. It worked. And yet, almost no one I knew knew about it. It made me wonder if all those dissatisfied couples looking outward to new partners had explored themselves first. Not that kind of self-exploration—though that... See more