When I learned to let my skin speak in these four ways, it was so subtly radical, it rearranged me. It was simple. It was accessible. It worked. And yet, almost no one I knew knew about it. It made me wonder if all those dissatisfied couples looking outward to new partners had explored themselves first. Not that kind of self-exploration—though that... See more

the rapture of new love, when our ecstatic passion collapses all boundaries and two bodies dissolve into one breathless, shared pulse

The point is, when we try to give and receive simultaneously, we end up doing neither deeply. We skim the surface of intimacy, of sensuality, never letting it pull us under into its fullness. The Wheel of Consentis about disentangling a couple’s surface-level merging, revealing a deeper intimacy—two people, present in themselves, separate yet... See more