perfectionism is power
moving away from seeing perfectionism as pathology, and towards perfectionism as profound gift that can be harnessed and bring us more fully to life
perfectionism is power
Perfectionism is easy to see on someone. Physically it is a rigidity in the musculature and there can be stunted tones in the voice. Mentally they are often second-guessing themselves, hesitant, and overly precise.
Joe Hudson • Tweet
“The times are urgent. Let us slow down.” —Bayo Akomolafe
The desire to be special can only exist when you don’t know who you are.
Joe Hudson • Tweet
Perfection is a paradox—you can never become perfect, and you already are perfect. A perfectionist in an adaptive mindset believes both those statements are true. A perfectionist in a maladaptive mindset believes both those statements are false.
Katherine Morgan Schafler • The Perfectionist's Guide to Losing Control
perfection is an abstract concept. It takes an abstract mind to grasp its meaning and to cherish a vision that does not exist in the concrete world. Facility with abstraction is the sine qua non of giftedness; this quality differentiates the gifted from others throughout the lifespan.
Dr. Linda Silverman • Perfectionism: the Crucible of Giftedness
Trying to get rid of your perfectionism is like trying to get rid of the wind by whacking it with a broom. Perfectionism is too powerful for an eradication approach. When you try to get rid of your perfectionism, all you’re doing is hemorrhaging energy at the opportunity cost of attending to your wellness.
Katherine Morgan Schafler • The Perfectionist's Guide to Losing Control
If you think you have to act a certain way in order to be loved, you’re not actually being loved
You’re being loved for someone you’re pretending to be, and that’s not being loved.
You’re being loved for someone you’re pretending to be, and that’s not being loved.