perfectionism is power
moving away from seeing perfectionism as pathology, and towards perfectionism as profound gift that can be harnessed and bring us more fully to life
perfectionism is power
People don’t want you to be perfect.
What they want is to feel connected to you.
What they want is to feel connected to you.
Joe Hudson • Tweet
when you’ve got a strong inner critic, you’re like an animal caught in a trap — but you’re both the animal and the trap
Changing the interpretation of the past is critical to controlling the future.
Benjamin Life • Tweet
Control encourages restriction; power encourages freedom. Control is petty; power is generous. Control micromanages; power inspires. Control manipulates; power influences. Control is myopic—you have to plan everything one precise move at a time. Power is visionary—it affords you the great luxury of taking leaps of faith. Power is the upgrade.
Katherine Morgan Schafler • The Perfectionist's Guide to Losing Control
Olympic champions, scientific breakthroughs, great works of art are all products of the perfectionistic personality gone right.
Dr. Linda Silverman • Perfectionism: the Crucible of Giftedness
If you think you have to act a certain way in order to be loved, you’re not actually being loved
You’re being loved for someone you’re pretending to be, and that’s not being loved.
You’re being loved for someone you’re pretending to be, and that’s not being loved.