single girlies club
i don’t know if this is a club i want to be part of???
single girlies club
We need to stop tying ourselves so narrowly to this punitive vision that we’ve got to date in our twenties, find the ideal partner by twenty-eight, and have our first child at thirty-one, otherwise our life will be miserable.
Natasha Lunn • Conversations on Love: with Philippa Perry, Dolly Alderton, Roxane Gay, Stephen Grosz, Esther Perel, and many more
The Sofa
open.spotify.comHope I can accept the wild thing (wild thing) in me
Hope nobody comes to tame her
And she can be free
Sick of second-guessing my behavior
And what I want to be
Just let me lie here on the sofa
And put the reruns on TV
I'll be fine, I'll be okay
I feel kind of lucky right now and I'm not ashamed to say
I can be happy, I can be sad
I can be a bitch when I get mad
I wanna settle down, oh, to fall in love
But, sometimes, I just want to fuck
I love my life, I love my life
Sometimes, I just want to
Let me lie here on
(I could lie here all day long)
Let me lie here on the sofa
(The sofa, the sofa)
On the sofa
Sometimes, I just want to
be no one thing
(Ah, ah) the intellectual beauty queen
Didn't make it out to California
Where I thought I might clean the slate
Feels a little like I'm stuck in Seven Sisters
North London, oh, England
And maybe that's okay
Maybe that's fine, I'll be okay
I feel kind of lucky right now and I'm not ashamed to say
I can be happy, I can be sad
I can be a bitch when I get mad
I wanna settle down, oh, to fall in love
But, sometimes, I just want to fuck
I love my life, I love my life
Sometimes, I just want to
Let me lie here on
(I could lie here all day long)
Let me lie here on the sofa
(The sofa, the sofa)
On the sofa
Sometimes, I just want to
be no one thing
(Ah, ah) the intellectual beauty queen
And the wild thing
Let me lie here on
(I could lie here all day long)
Let me lie here on the sofa
(The sofa, the sofa)
On the sofa
Hope I can accept the wild thing in me
Hope nobody comes to tame her
And she can be free
West End Girl - Album by Lily Allen | Spotify
open.spotify.comIt’s not that I think of myself as “above” the whole single girlies camaraderie, just that I’m questioning whether attaching ourselves to each other kind of defeats the point - or, to put it another way, doesn’t make the most of the (rare) opportunity that being single gives us: to be completely detached, free-floating, and entirely self-serving.
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... See moreIf I were being didactic I would say that this, this pure and fiery solitude, is the time in which women form themselves—and that a patriarchal society has removed that privilege from us through the threat of eternal loneliness as a penance for the sin of loving yourself.
Lena Dunham • Lena Dunham Explores Alone Time After a Break-Up
For an exquisite moment, rather than mourn the loss of my partner, I mourned the loss of my bravery. I used to have no problem staring into the face of the hostess when I said, “Just one for dinner, thank you.”