shame
we live with a quiet, often unspoken tension- the aching desire to be truly seen, understood and accepted , yet simultaneously, the impulse to hide, to hold back, to keep parts of ourselves locked away from others’ eyes.
the paradox of craving to be seen but fearing being known
“comparison when used as a tool can notify you the things that you actually want to be doing.
it's a good way of knowing if you're being a little bit too easy on yourself if you see other people succeeding at the things you want to be doing.
it's like hey bro, do it. do it too, you can do it too, do it.”
— david achu, look who’s doing better than you
david if u somehow find this: your script writing has gotten so impactful<3
shame is the aliveness killer
Fun Pilgrim • Tweet
Why do you focus only on your shortcomings, and why have you decided to not start liking yourself? It’s because you are overly afraid of being disliked by other people and getting hurt in your interpersonal relationships.
Ichiro Kishimi, Fumitake Koga • The Courage to Be Disliked: The Japanese Phenomenon That Shows You How to Change Your Life and Achieve Real Happiness
🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰 friendly reminder that you have time
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instagram.comi think this is a feature of modern day capitalism, and not a bug.
upper classes profit off of those who are of lower classes seeing an ideal, and fearing the failure & social rejection of trying at all more than the possibility that they could actually be as successful as the person they admire if they just tried over and over and over again like that person did.
that way they keep more employees for the giant corporations, keeping the general populace exhausted + uninspired while the rich were never inspired in the first place, and piss their lives and money away, with all due respect.
perfectionism is a form of shame
tala.bearblog.dev
REALLY good piece actually, combating perfectionism.
“The antidote of shame is not flawless performance. I believe it’s self-acceptance, when you tell yourself: Even when I stumble, I am enough. I will get up again.”
negative tw//
another lesson in communication, or lack thereof.
emotions like shame and embarrassment involve a commitment, not to a particular norm per se, but to the shared set of standards operative in our social environment.16 When we feel ashamed of doing something we don’t think is wrong, we’re not ashamed of the behavior per se, but of failing to conform to group norms
Alexandra Plakias • Awkwardness: A Theory
rings a cute little bell!!! yes
