self care

Although it looks like a lot, there are actually only five things in any room: (1) trash, (2) dishes, (3) laundry, (4) things that have a place and are not in their place, and (5) things that do not have a place.

Bathing/Showering 1. Health and Safety: I need to remove dirt and dead skin cells from my body. 2. Comfort: I want to have clean hair so I can look nice and not feel greasy. To smell nice and feel confident in public. 3. Happiness: I like to be able to relax, to focus on myself, and to read a book in the tub.

You do not have to wait to care about your body to care for your body. In fact, caring for your body can often cause you to start liking it more.

For example, the care task of feeding yourself involves more than just putting food into your mouth. You must also make time to figure out the nutritional needs and preferences of everyone you’re feeding, plan and execute a shopping trip, decide how you’re going to prepare that food and set aside the time to do so, and ensure that mealtimes come at

This list is here to serve me; I do not serve this list. This schedule is here to make my life easier, not to make it harder. The schedule isn’t for telling me what I must do or reminding me about what I haven’t done. The way it serves me each day is by taking the burden of decision-making away. I don’t have to feel as though I have to clean

For a lot of people, finding a method that bypasses the most executive functioning barriers or that makes a task a little less intolerable is better than what’s “quickest.” In the end, the approach that you are motivated to do and enjoy doing is the most “efficient,” because you are actually doing it and not avoiding it.

A really common defeating message that we say to ourselves is “What’s the point of picking up? It’s just going to look like this again tomorrow.” I find this stems from that binary view of care tasks that they can be only either done or not done and that done is the superior state. But keeping everything done isn’t the point. Keeping things

Floors 1. Health and Safety: I need to remove tripping hazards and prevent bugs, mold, and bacteria from spreading or growing. 2. Comfort: I want room for kids to play; I don’t like bits of dirt sticking to my feet when I am barefoot. 3. Happiness: I like the way the room looks when the floors are clean and mopped. Feels peaceful.