Self-betterment
We can ditch our managers, offices, or professions, but any horizontal leap will only land us on another treadmill. Resignation does not liberate us from the rat race. The ultimate escape—transcendence—is vertical, not horizontal. Otherwise, our individuality will be used for anything but our own good.
Sherry Ning • Transcending the Rat Race
Embrace the many things you’ll never do . Enjoy saying, “I’ll never learn Chinese,” or “I don’t need to visit every country.” Everything you say no to creates space for the most important things to say yes to.
Nat Eliason • 40 Lessons From 30 Years
Wow! This is new. I just realized how many things I leave on my plate just for the sake of optionality. I don’t need this many options in my life. It’s actually destroying me. Make serious decisions. Throw the plate and buy a new one, one that’s as big as one small yet delicious meal.
Err on the side of too early over too late . Related to that point, since there’s never a “right time,” it’s almost always better to do things “too early.” Your conception that it’s too early is just your fear, and once you dive in you’ll figure it out. Old people tend to regret the things they didn’t do, or didn’t do earlier. Not the things they... See more
Nat Eliason • 40 Lessons From 30 Years
If you’re going to do something do it early in its timespan not later. This means that your core task is to identify what you wanna do and then do it directly.
Put simply, charismatic people are helpers. They are out to see others profit; they have the gift of grace.
John C. Maxwell • Be a People Person: Effective Leadership Through Effective Relationships
In Greek, charisma translates as a “gift.” Rather than keep that gift to exploit for themselves, some charismatic people disperse it. They hand it out at social events, such as the holiday parties at this time of year, and use it to guide the energy of a shared occasion. I call these people vibe popes. Consider it a nondenominational title for... See more
Adrienne Matei • The Type of Charisma That Saves a Holiday Party
Charisma is the gift of spending good social time with others.
Beware of shadow careers . This idea comes from Steven Pressfield: “Sometimes, when we’re terrified of embracing our true calling, we’ll pursue a shadow calling instead. The shadow career is a metaphor for our real career. Its shape is similar, its contours feel tantalizingly the same. But a shadow career entails no real risk. If we fail at a... See more
Nat Eliason • 40 Lessons From 30 Years
One of my biggest problems is the fact that I don’t really know my calling. I wanna do a lot of things. I’m interested in so many things. But I can’t identify this thing that my life should wrap around. Also, I’m not that kind of guy who does a lot of things at the same time. It’s a serious dilemma.
Remote relationships cost you real relationships . Every minute you spend cultivating relationships with people through a screen is a minute you’re not deepening relationships with people you can actually see and touch and smell.