self

Growth itself is a process of creation and destruction. A new you is constantly being formed as the old you decays and becomes formless. Hanging on to the remnants of the past will only delay your arrival into the present. If you want to live in a way that supports your freedom, you have no other option but to let go.

“Each day, we wake slightly altered, and the person we were yesterday is dead. So why, one could say, be afraid of death, when death comes all the time?”

Paralyzed perfectionists are those who let the fear of failure trap them into living a less meaningful life. They’ll play it safe by doing things like watching TV, only doing what they’re “supposed to do,” and taking very few risks. Those who are overdriven struggle the most with unrealistic expectations and rumination. Those who are paralyzed

Steve Chandler writes. They don’t see ‘that leaving things unfinished is what’s causing the low levels of energy.’ (He suggests spending one day robotically completing as much unfinished business as you can: ‘Notice at the end of that day how much energy you’ve got. You’ll be amazed.’)

We need heuristics, because the world is incredibly complex, and if we didn’t simplify our mental models we’d never be able to make a decision about anything. But the risk with any heuristic is that salient, even essential points can get lost in the simplification and substitution, leading to a false outcome.

Living things can grow stronger after being damaged.

Independent self-construal refers to the great degree to which people regard themselves as an isolated entity, whereas people who are more interdependent self-construal tend to conceive themselves as an integral part in interpersonal relationship

Play consists of whatever a body is not obliged to do.

Which then makes me realize that half of my effort wasn’t effort at all, but just unnecessary stress that made me feel like I was doing my best.