Reminders for myself
Filters to use before talking
Someone on Reddit posted a visual to show the internal filters they use before speaking. However, I found the most valuable filtering advice in the comments:
Is this something that needs to be said?
Is this something that needs to be said by me?
Is this something that needs to be said by me right now?
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I know that in a really great relationship or friendship, you should be able to state your needs without explanation. “I need attention.” “Some cheese would make me happy.” “I want to express a feeling that I don’t endorse.” “I am looking for a compliment.” “Can you tell me that I’m cute and good right now?”
Sasha Chapin • 50 Things I Know
The same boiling water that softens the potato hardens the egg. It’s what you’re made of. Not the circumstances.
Experience. Don’t observe.
Inhale. Don’t read.
Transfigure. Don’t shift.
Advocate. Don’t ponder.
Prove. Don’t promise.
Encourage. Don’t cut.
Imagine. Don’t worry.
Do. Don’t analyze.
Hear. Don’t listen.
Show. Don’t tell.
Give. Don’t take.
Brian Collins • 101 Design Rules
There is the kindness of ‘please’ and ‘thank you.’ And the kindness of “I was wrong, I’m sorry.” The small kindnesses that smooth our interactions and help other people feel as though you’re aware of them .
Seth Godin • Three types of kindness
When expanding intuition:
Pay attention to any sound or tones that may also be here. As you open to sound, it may be that you begin to hear words or phrases or maybe even advice. As you continue to just be present in this moment as if you are just throwing out a net, throw out whatever it is that you would like in your life.
Pay attention to any sound or tones that may also be here. As you open to sound, it may be that you begin to hear words or phrases or maybe even advice. As you continue to just be present in this moment as if you are just throwing out a net, throw out whatever it is that you would like in your life.