Instead of asking "Are you the one," ask two questions of each of you. Do I accept my partner despite their shortcomings? Do I commit to nurture them to achieve what is important to them? And likewise, do they accept me and do they commit to me? All you need is four yeses.
It is our relationships are the most impactful in creating overall life satisfaction. Yet few of us are putting intentional effort to make sure that they actually bring a satisfaction. Most people are expecting relationships to be satisfying automatically without having to put in intentional work.
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Some years back my wife and I got into the habit of asking each other
‘do you want comfort or solutions’ when the other was having a bad time. That one sentence can save us from an argument 9/10 times.