Relationships
Alex Wittenberg and
Relationships
It's easy to fall into the trap of feeling responsible for other people's emotions, reactions, and inner turmoil. We have an innate desire to be understood and accepted. So when others seem upset with us, judge us, or want us to change, we leap to explain, rationalize, and pacify. But in our quest to please or appease, we often lose ourselves.... See more
instagram.comSome years back my wife and I got into the habit of asking each other
‘do you want comfort or solutions’ when the other was having a bad time. That one sentence can save us from an argument 9/10 times.
Alexander Jamestwitter.com
In other words, siblings are forced together, and then suddenly they’re not. The independence of adulthood—when proximity is no longer required and the obligations lessen—creates opportunities for siblings to build, repair, or discard the relationships of their youth, to stay stuck in or break free of the roles they played as children.
"I want to talk about the great and powerful thing that listening is. And how we forget it. And how we don't listen to our children, or those we love. And least of all --- which is so important to --- to those we do not love. But it would be so different if we did. Because listening is a strange and magnetic thing, a creative force. You can see
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