Relationships
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Relationships
Our generation’s collective consciousness in regards to love is a complex/spoiled one. Through globalization and over-stimuli we are drowning in contradicting self-imposed subjective expectations and demands towards love.
To have → love.
To want → desire.
Imagination, admiration, novelty, and vulnerability play protagonist roles in the feeling of drawness towards a partner.
Neediness is an anti-aphrodisiac – anything resembling parenthood.
The erotic as an antidote to death, mechanism to survive during the holocaust. The erotic mind is full of contradictions, love them <3
Instead of asking "Are you the one," ask two questions of each of you. Do I accept my partner despite their shortcomings? Do I commit to nurture them to achieve what is important to them? And likewise, do they accept me and do they commit to me? All you need is four yeses.
George Blair-West • George Blair-West: Is your partner "the one?" Wrong question
"I want to talk about the great and powerful thing that listening is. And how we forget it. And how we don't listen to our children, or those we love. And least of all --- which is so important to --- to those we do not love. But it would be so different if we did. Because listening is a strange and magnetic thing, a creative force. You can see
... See moreFrom Esther Perel's Blog - Letters From Esther #37: Eroticism is an Art. But It’s Also a Practice.
Esther Perelestherperel.com
There’s no love without vulnerability. There’s no life without fear . And you will no doubt derail romance if you are too risk-averse.
freyaindia.co.uk • Risk-Aversion Is Killing Romance - By Freya India - GIRLS
ritualized, compulsive self-disclosure is not intimacy
it’s often a defense mechanism, one that masquerades as vulnerability but actually kills erotic charge, polarity, and mystery
shared experience, unspoken tension, and real-time attunement are the components of intimacy
it’s often a defense mechanism, one that masquerades as vulnerability but actually kills erotic charge, polarity, and mystery
shared experience, unspoken tension, and real-time attunement are the components of intimacy