The way I think about coaching is very much how I think about parenting, and I think it translates in lots of other places, that your ability to drive change is about the quality of your relationship, not your hierarchy.
In other words, siblings are forced together, and then suddenly they’re not. The independence of adulthood—when proximity is no longer required and the obligations lessen—creates opportunities for siblings to build, repair, or discard the relationships of their youth, to stay stuck in or break free of the roles they played as children.
From Esther Perel's Blog - Letters From Esther #37: Eroticism is an Art. But It’s Also a Practice.
if you stand firmly on a self-lain foundation of patience and trust, someone crossing your boundaries is not so threatening. let them in. see what they do in your space. remove yourself if necessary.
i've always wondered why I leave some exchanges drained and others energized. why I can instantly sense whether someone is a soul friend or not
the best way i've been able to comprehend this is that conversations are the medium by which energy is exchanged. they are composed of:
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