Relationships
Alex Wittenberg and
Relationships
It's easy to fall into the trap of feeling responsible for other people's emotions, reactions, and inner turmoil. We have an innate desire to be understood and accepted. So when others seem upset with us, judge us, or want us to change, we leap to explain, rationalize, and pacify. But in our quest to please or appease, we often lose ourselves.... See more
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What the humans like is responsiveness - by Sasha Chapin What the humans like is responsiveness
Sasha Chapinsashachapin.substack.comThis is good! So elegant. Feels like a theory of everything when it comes to relationships.
The Tao of Leadership: Lao Tzu's Tao Te Ching Adapted for a New Age
John Heider • 2 highlights
amazon.comThe way I think about coaching is very much how I think about parenting, and I think it translates in lots of other places, that your ability to drive change is about the quality of your relationship, not your hierarchy.
Sam Hinkie • Find Your People
A relationship, notably, is not an algorithm. It is a gestalt. Far be it from me to say that I’ve figured out what relationships really are or really mean, but I know there is an intangible force formed between the centres of people that sits beyond the limits of interpretation, that is larger than itself and both of you, that cannot be explained... See more
rayne fisher-quann • against narrative
Instead of asking "Are you the one," ask two questions of each of you. Do I accept my partner despite their shortcomings? Do I commit to nurture them to achieve what is important to them? And likewise, do they accept me and do they commit to me? All you need is four yeses.
George Blair-West • George Blair-West: Is your partner "the one?" Wrong question
People often destroy their relationships over their whims. "He doesn't go rock climbing with me." "She doesn't do this specific thing when we're having sex." They start to obsess over this lack, mistaking a flight of fancy for a great and vacuous unfulfilled desire that if satisfied, will fix everything. What could have been summarily dismissed... See more