Relationships
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Relationships
What the humans like is responsiveness - by Sasha Chapin What the humans like is responsiveness
Sasha Chapinsashachapin.substack.comThis is good! So elegant. Feels like a theory of everything when it comes to relationships.
Our generation’s collective consciousness in regards to love is a complex/spoiled one. Through globalization and over-stimuli we are drowning in contradicting self-imposed subjective expectations and demands towards love.
To have → love.
To want → desire.
Imagination, admiration, novelty, and vulnerability play protagonist roles in the feeling of drawness towards a partner.
Neediness is an anti-aphrodisiac – anything resembling parenthood.
The erotic as an antidote to death, mechanism to survive during the holocaust. The erotic mind is full of contradictions, love them <3
Wanting to be enough for someone else is self-abandonment.
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I meet a lot of people searching for something (career, relationship, etc). And yet, when it’s put in front of them, they won’t pursue it because they fear pain (getting hurt, failure, etc.). So they unconsciously (and expensively) trade self protection for misery.
Shane Parrishtwitter.com“Once you grow up, you realize you don’t want to be crazy in love.
You want to be calm in love,
stable in love, patient in love,
understood in love, safe in love.
Your partner should give you peace of mind and reassurance, not constant little heart attacks and high anxiety.”
