Relationships
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Relationships
I think that a fairly reliable mark of high intelligence is the capacity to recognize the signal within the noise of someone's 'wrong' take.
Pseudo-intelligence gleefully pours out the bathwater, raw intelligence finds & nurtures the baby.
Pseudo-intelligence gleefully pours out the bathwater, raw intelligence finds & nurtures the baby.
Heidi Priebe • Tweet
In other words, siblings are forced together, and then suddenly they’re not. The independence of adulthood—when proximity is no longer required and the obligations lessen—creates opportunities for siblings to build, repair, or discard the relationships of their youth, to stay stuck in or break free of the roles they played as children.
"I want to talk about the great and powerful thing that listening is. And how we forget it. And how we don't listen to our children, or those we love. And least of all --- which is so important to --- to those we do not love. But it would be so different if we did. Because listening is a strange and magnetic thing, a creative force. You can see
... See moreInstead of asking "Are you the one," ask two questions of each of you. Do I accept my partner despite their shortcomings? Do I commit to nurture them to achieve what is important to them? And likewise, do they accept me and do they commit to me? All you need is four yeses.
George Blair-West • George Blair-West: Is your partner "the one?" Wrong question
"Love doesn't just sit there, like a stone, it has to be made, like bread; re-made all the time, made new."
(Ursula K. Le Guin)
(Ursula K. Le Guin)
Vidhika Bansal • Tweet
A fantastic insight by Lisa Feldman Barrett: When someone expresses anxiety, the first thing you should do is ask: do you want empathy or do you want a solution?
Will 100% use this phrase going forward.