Your milieu is not the same as your sister’s. It is an ever-shifting, individual configuration of information flows. The Twitter feed you have curated is a milieu. Your friend group (which is not the same as the friend groups of the other people in that group!) is a milieu.
It is by changing your milieu that you change yourself.
A fantastic insight by Lisa Feldman Barrett: When someone expresses anxiety, the first thing you should do is ask: do you want empathy or do you want a solution?
Will 100% use this phrase going forward.
There’s no love without vulnerability. There’s no life without fear . And you will no doubt derail romance if you are too risk-averse.
People often destroy their relationships over their whims. "He doesn't go rock climbing with me." "She doesn't do this specific thing when we're having sex." They start to obsess over this lack, mistaking a flight of fancy for a great and vacuous unfulfilled desire that if satisfied, will fix everything. What could have been summarily dismissed... See more
Our generation’s collective consciousness in regards to love is a complex/spoiled one. Through globalization and over-stimuli we are drowning in contradicting self-imposed subjective expectations and demands towards love.
To have → love.
To want → desire.
Imagination, admiration, novelty, and vulnerability play protagonist roles in the feeling of drawness towards a partner.
Neediness is an anti-aphrodisiac – anything resembling parenthood.
The erotic as an antidote to death, mechanism to survive during the holocaust. The erotic mind is full of contradictions, love them <3