💕 love & relationships

The thing I’ve learned over time is that friendships are not fungible—no two people are the same, obviously, but also you can’t replicate the experience of someone knowing you through a particular era of your life. You can never go back to that period of your life; you can never replace the people who witnessed you and supported you. To me, relinqu... See more

There’s one model of the world that goes something like: platonically and romantically we fall in love with people, and then we fall out of love with them. Romantic relationships end. Friendships drift apart. It’s very sad for some period of time, but everyone involved recovers and moves on.

There’s another model of the world that goes something li... See more

TIP ONE: ASK DEEP QUESTIONS

A deep question asks someone about their values, beliefs or experiences. Rather than asking someone about the facts of their life (“Where do you live?”) it asks how they feel about their life. (“What’s the best part of where you live?”) Studies show that people love answering deep questions, because it gives us a chance ... See more