Relationships

Most people – maybe more than you think – are peace- and love-seeking creatures who are sometimes caught in bad situations. The most practical thing you can do, even in hard times, is to lead with curiosity, lead with respect, work hard to understand the people you might be taught to detest.

“That means seeing people with generous eyes, offering... See more

Embrace the 15% rule: By pushing yourself just 15% beyond your current boundaries, you can create opportunities for growth and deepen connections with others. This approach allows you to gauge your comfort level and adjust gradually, avoiding overwhelming discomfort while still fostering meaningful progress.

Trust and security. Secrets are poison to a relationship, because they form an invisible wall inside the relationship, leaving both people somewhat alone in the world—and besides, who wants to spend 50 years lying or worrying about hiding something? And on the other side of secrets will often be suspicion, a concept that directly clashes with the

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The rule should be “whatever you do, don’t marry the wrong person,” but society frowns much more upon a 37-year-old single person than it does an unhappily married 37-year-old with two children.

When men and women are friends, it won’t be based on mutual understanding. It will be based on a shared vulnerability that one allows to remain exposed instead of covering it over with a romantic relationship. This is harder, but many find it worth the effort.

Another idea that had consensus assumed that romantic feelings exist, and you can only be friends if you’re able to maintain clear communication and work through them. It turns out that the assumption of a heterosexual “trap” threatening friendships is still very much alive — and we can assume it is stopping many men and women from exploring what... See more

34. Your house, containing everything you own, catches fire. After saving your loved ones and pets, you have time to safely make a final dash to save any one item. What would it be? Why?

“When someone is in your heart, in your bed, you share intimacy, you want to keep them as friends,” she said. “Sometimes it takes work, especially if you left them.”