relatable

there’s a specific kind of exhaustion that doesn’t come from doing too much, but from thinking too much while doing very little.

milk and cookies • a guide to emotional hygiene for overthinkers

While adapting to living here might sound pessimistic and resigned, I found talking about it deeply up-lifting. This is partly the subtle therapy of acknowledging the truths that hide in plain sight, though also because despite the insecurity that living here entails; it ’s an altogether more humane place to inhabit. It’s where we recognise our... See more

The end of the road?

And I do not want more doors—I want to walk through one without looking back. I want to love something long enough to feel it love me in return. I want to lay foundations on imperfect soil and call it home anyway.

But I have lost myself in a million other people. I’m no longer fluent in my own language. I’ve consumed so many dreams that weren’t... See more

amber. • the hunger to be everything.

my sense is that people who take a long time to respond to messages, or tend to go into shame spirals about them, often put a lot of pressure on themselves to respond in a specific way

Fun Pilgrim x.com

I feel thin, sort of stretched, like butter scraped over too much bread.

-Tolkien

If you're in that invisible building phase right now—working a job that feels like a stepping stone, living in a place you've outgrown, developing skills in private—know this: You're not behind. You're in training.

Carmen Van Kerckhove • Stop pretending you don’t care

Unfortunately, if you want to do new things, you'll face a force more powerful than other people's skepticism: your own skepticism. You too will judge your early work too harshly. How do you avoid that?

Paul Graham • Early Work

As you well know, my dear, when you are in the actual inferno or emergency — meaning when life becomes bigger than you can handle, unmanageable and exhausting — you actually cannot practice self-care any more than you can fly to the moon.

In fact, you have become angry in the past when people told you at such times to take care of yourself because

LETTERS FROM LOVE — With Special Guest Sari Botton!

and that’s the thing. overthinkers don’t need less thought. we need better systems for handling what we feel. we need routines that don’t just regulate us in crisis, but keep us clear enough to avoid crisis in the first place. we need rituals that return us to ourselves — not because we’re broken, but because our brains are busy places and our... See more