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and that’s the thing. overthinkers don’t need less thought. we need better systems for handling what we feel. we need routines that don’t just regulate us in crisis, but keep us clear enough to avoid crisis in the first place. we need rituals that return us to ourselves — not because we’re broken, but because our brains are busy places and our hear... See more

There’s a tremendous friction that arises when you don’t allow yourself to do what you really want to do with your life. You make a lot of halfway decisions to negotiate your competing priorities: what you want, and what you want to want.

Often when people are stuck in life it’s because they’re holding out for the delusional possibility of a costless way of getting what they want, instead of just paying the cost

Unfortunately, if you want to do new things, you'll face a force more powerful than other people's skepticism: your own skepticism. You too will judge your early work too harshly. How do you avoid that?

If you're in that invisible building phase right now—working a job that feels like a stepping stone, living in a place you've outgrown, developing skills in private—know this: You're not behind. You're in training.

my sense is that people who take a long time to respond to messages, or tend to go into shame spirals about them, often put a lot of pressure on themselves to respond in a specific way