redefining success

Defining time well spent for yourself is one of the most important tasks of going day to day in this life.

I’ve concluded that the metric by which God will assess my life isn’t dollars but the individual people whose lives I’ve touched. I think that’s the way it will work for us all. Don’t worry about the level of individual prominence you have achieved; worry about the individuals you have helped become better people. This is my final recommendation:

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Your vocation, in the mid-20th-century world I was born into, was your job title. This was such a diminishment of us. We are called not merely to be professionals but to be friends, neighbors, colleagues, family, citizens, lovers of the world. We are called to creativity and caring and play for which we will never be paid — and which will make life... See more

I also received positive feedback from my clients, who said that their time with me was the most impactful part of their week! This hit my north star metric: insights per minute.

To enjoy life, we might have to stop thinking about what we will never be able to read and watch and say and do, and start to think of how to enjoy the world within our boundaries. To live on a human scale. To focus on the few things we can do, rather than the millions of things we can’t. To not crave parallel lives. To find a smaller mathematics.

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When I was younger, I was skateboarding a lot. I was listening to music and skateboarding. There were two songs, that are widely different: DJ Shadow’s “Building Steam With a Grain of Salt,” and Bob Dylan’s “Don’t Think Twice It’s All Right.” And I remember skateboarding to them and they made me just stop. And the world felt so cool. I would look... See more

That said, I find myself in a season of my life where I am no longer seeking what is 'big and loud'. I'm not interested in trends, virality, job promotions, or epiphanies. Instead, I'm looking for what is timeless, what remains under-appreciated, and what is quietly profound. I'm seeking opportunities to nurture what's important to me, improve the... See more

Koga came to realize as he got older that success is not finite; choice is. He shares, “In your twenties, you’re afforded a lot of choice because you likely have fewer considerations: no mortgage, no health condition, no children or aging parents. As you grow older, your choices tend to narrow—not because you can’t actually do things, but that you... See more

Ambition is about living life as an art of devotion to the Process and Pattern, making reality more beautiful with your participation than it would be without it.