recovery

if you're dealing with insecurity or impostor syndrome I recommend not having a life narrative. you can just do your best at whatever task and connect with whomever seems to welcome connection if you're not worried how it fits into your life story

as I spend more time away from the internet– being with my family, being in nature, reflecting on my childhood– it’s become clearer to me that lots of my frenetic online poasting over the years was a coping mechanism, a response to feeling fragmented, disconnected, unlovable

Addiction is a progressive narrowing

of the things that bring you pleasure.

Happiness is a progressive expansion of the things that bring you pleasure. The former emerges passively.

The latter takes work.

"All empty souls tend toward extreme opinions."

-- W.B. Yeats

Once, we made sense of the world with sweeping narratives that provided a comforting sense of mastery. Now, with those narratives shattered beyond repair by a reality too complex for us to fathom, a new kind of coping mechanism is emerging—one where we make peace with the limits of our agency rather than pretending to overcome them. The task is no... See more

The least sexy advice on behaviour change nobody wants to hear?

Lower your expectations.

We have a tendency to set goals in states of either excitement or desperation.

Which leads us to massively overestimate what we can commit to.

Especially in the beginning, prioritise ease over effectiveness.