recovery
I couldn’t quit smoking until I convinced myself that smoking was for losers.
Wasn’t enough to “want” to quit. I had to actively disdain it in an over the top way.
After the identity-belief changed, the rest was (relatively) easy.
Aaron Francis
Wasn’t enough to “want” to quit. I had to actively disdain it in an over the top way.
After the identity-belief changed, the rest was (relatively) easy.
Aaron Francis
Nathan Baschez • Tweet
My general working definition of compulsive/addictive behavior is “a pathological relationship to any mood-altering experience that has life-damaging consequences.”
John Bradshaw • Healing the Shame That Binds You
“Gratitude unlocks the fullness of life. It turns what we have into enough, and more.” -Melody Beattie
When you don’t trust yourself, you’re waiting to catch yourself in a mistake so you can pounce on your own certainty about how unworthy of trust you are. You get petty. You become fixated on your mistakes, and you keep a tally of those mistakes. In contrast, when you notice you’ve been numbing out all week beyond a level you’re comfortable with and
... See moreKatherine Morgan Schafler • The Perfectionist's Guide to Losing Control
Seems like one of the highest leverage stories for many ppl (me included) to reprogram is the one that goes like:
>I am struggling
>I am struggling and it is my fault
>I am struggling and it is my fault and I have to deal with this on my own
>I am going to isolate myself until I am presentable for other humans
Your sanity depends on you finding the comedy in the chaos
Dylan O'Sullivan • Tweet
People who trust themselves trust themselves because they’re honest with themselves. More specifically, they’re honest about what they need to restrict themselves from or altogether avoid. We think that the more we trust ourselves, the fewer boundaries we’ll need; the opposite is true. The people who trust themselves the most are the ones who honor
... See moreKatherine Morgan Schafler • The Perfectionist's Guide to Losing Control
Healing is not becoming the best version of ourselves. Healing is letting the worst version of ourselves be loved.