recovery

The three elements I've found most helpful in changing harmful habits and patterned behavior (addictions):

1. First, pause and notice that you're feeling something uncomfortable (most don't realize this) and that you're hoping this pattern will make it go away. Get curious about what that feeling actually is. Be with it.


2. Remind yourself of the

... See more

Forgiveness Prayer

In this moment of stillness,

I release the weight of past hurts and grievances,

Letting them dissolve like morning mist in the warmth of understanding.

To those who have caused me pain:

I acknowledge that you, too, were walking your own difficult path.

Your actions, though they wounded me,

Were born from your own struggles, fears, and... See more

There's so little to be done except let go, follow one's nature, and unfold what needs to happen moment by moment, even in the midst of dissolution and Mystery. I am no longer talking about caterpillars.

When you don’t trust yourself, you’re waiting to catch yourself in a mistake so you can pounce on your own certainty about how unworthy of trust you are. You get petty. You become fixated on your mistakes, and you keep a tally of those mistakes. In contrast, when you notice you’ve been numbing out all week beyond a level you’re comfortable with and

... See more

It sometimes feels like a shift that changes when observed, whose effects neutralize if paying too close of attention for whether “this” shift will be “the” shift. It’s perplexing that a salvific shift could itself be cunning, baffling, and powerful, not just the addiction.

if you're dealing with insecurity or impostor syndrome I recommend not having a life narrative. you can just do your best at whatever task and connect with whomever seems to welcome connection if you're not worried how it fits into your life story