recovery

Addiction is a progressive narrowing

of the things that bring you pleasure.

Happiness is a progressive expansion of the things that bring you pleasure. The former emerges passively.

The latter takes work.

maybe "lie constantly to everyone for convenience" is a bad cultural value that causes more problems than we realize

The more you cling to certainty, the more identity rules your life.

The fear of making mistakes is a particularly strong dampener on one’s learning. You can’t learn if you can’t make mistakes. I like the idea that mastery is simply a very intimate understanding of all the possible mistakes one could make.

The gap between knowing what you want and going after it is where fear thrives. You don't need enough courage for the entire journey. You only need courage for the next step.

When you don’t trust yourself, you’re waiting to catch yourself in a mistake so you can pounce on your own certainty about how unworthy of trust you are. You get petty. You become fixated on your mistakes, and you keep a tally of those mistakes. In contrast, when you notice you’ve been numbing out all week beyond a level you’re comfortable with and

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