recovery

The least sexy advice on behaviour change nobody wants to hear?

Lower your expectations.

We have a tendency to set goals in states of either excitement or desperation.

Which leads us to massively overestimate what we can commit to.

Especially in the beginning, prioritise ease over effectiveness.

I couldn’t quit smoking until I convinced myself that smoking was for losers.

Wasn’t enough to “want” to quit. I had to actively disdain it in an over the top way.

After the identity-belief changed, the rest was (relatively) easy.

Aaron Francis

I remember when marijuana was medically legalized in Los Angeles. I would see massive lines out the door of dispensaries in my neighborhood. Looking at everyone waiting for their kush, I’d ask myself, “Are all these people really here for ‘medical’ usage? This feels more like legalizing mass addiction to cope with depression, anxiety and god knows... See more

You need to be service maxxing, looking for every opportunity to be of service to others and forgetting about yourself in the process.

The more of a substantial person you are, the better you make the lives of those around you.

Humans aren’t meant to excavate their inner feelings until they find their “true self.” We become ourselves in relation, not through introspection.