recovery

In my experience, at least some degree of nondual realization makes handling addictions WAY easier.

It's no longer me handling a force, fixing myself, purifying my psyche. It really feels like what Rumi said:

"Be melting snow. Wash yourself of yourself"

The least sexy advice on behaviour change nobody wants to hear?

Lower your expectations.

We have a tendency to set goals in states of either excitement or desperation.

Which leads us to massively overestimate what we can commit to.

Especially in the beginning, prioritise ease over effectiveness.

God makes you walk in circles until you’re exhausted enough to just be yourself

There's an idea I think I picked up from Robert Kegan, the idea of an "evolutionary balance" in your personality structure. Or maybe it was “evolutionary truce.” The idea, as I remember it, is that your personality is made of many different dynamic forces, all pulling and pushing in different ways. For most of your life, those forces find an... See more

The more of a substantial person you are, the better you make the lives of those around you.

Forgiveness performed from obligation does two things: it excuses the behavior of others, and it reduces our ability to be conscious and present with the pain we truly feel.

When we rush to forgiveness, we lose our connection to our original wounds.

if you're dealing with insecurity or impostor syndrome I recommend not having a life narrative. you can just do your best at whatever task and connect with whomever seems to welcome connection if you're not worried how it fits into your life story

Humility isn't false modesty. True humility is feeling the fullness of your desire for the spotlight, and choosing not to be noticed