recovery

When David Foster Wallace said "there's a lot of narcissism in self-hatred" he was absolutely cooking

i regret to inform you that personal growth rarely comes from acquiring new knowledge and always from periods of intense humility (i.e. your ego finally relenting)

Anxiety is the universe telling you it's time to do something, to create something, anything

"All empty souls tend toward extreme opinions."

-- W.B. Yeats

In my experience, at least some degree of nondual realization makes handling addictions WAY easier.

It's no longer me handling a force, fixing myself, purifying my psyche. It really feels like what Rumi said:

"Be melting snow. Wash yourself of yourself"

Once, we made sense of the world with sweeping narratives that provided a comforting sense of mastery. Now, with those narratives shattered beyond repair by a reality too complex for us to fathom, a new kind of coping mechanism is emerging—one where we make peace with the limits of our agency rather than pretending to overcome them. The task is no... See more

You think your pain and your heartbreak are unprecedented in the history of the world, but then you read. It was books that taught me that the things that tormented me most were the very things that connected me with all the people who were alive, who had ever been alive.

― James Baldwin

The three elements I've found most helpful in changing harmful habits and patterned behavior (addictions):

1. First, pause and notice that you're feeling something uncomfortable (most don't realize this) and that you're hoping this pattern will make it go away. Get curious about what that feeling actually is. Be with it.


2. Remind yourself of the

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