Personal Life

latest version some people have asked for a PDF (idk why, but ok) you can have that one here: https://t.co/SY3Oi82hF5 https://t.co/fKBnf7btzs

i always felt like there was too much stuff around. not necessarily gifts or toys, but rather, an abundance of things to fill this void after my father left. my mother, despite how much she loved us, was also enabling and what i needed from her more than anything was structure, discipline, a strong voice to tell me what was right from wrong, and... See more

We’re drowning in content.

Every platform, every scroll, every second—more inputs, more noise, mo⁠

⁠re things trying to hook your attention. The old metrics of intelligence—who memorized the most, who spoke the loudest, who finished the book first—don’t mean much here.

In an age where AI can generate anything, the question is no longer "can it be... See more

we’re terrified of being directionless. we pathologize stillness. we treat confusion like a flaw in the system instead of a sign that the system no longer fits. especially in wellness culture — where even healing becomes a brand strategy. you’re expected to optimize your nervous system, journal your limiting beliefs, and manifest your next season,... See more

The tool I use is Dan Siegel’s window of tolerance which is the space in which we can put up with intensity and arousal without becoming dysregulated. In our windows, we can meet unwanteds head-on without getting distressed. It takes practice, but you can increase your ability to be grounded and calm even when your trauma is being triggered. This... See more