i. Parenting

Ideas and reminders of the dad I want to be for my son

Parents think they can hand children permanent confidence—like a gift—by praising their brains and talent. It doesn’t work, and in fact has the opposite effect. It makes children doubt themselves as soon as anything is hard or anything goes wrong. If parents want to give their children a gift, the best thing they can do is to teach their children t... See more

Carol Dweck • Mindset: The New Psychology of Success

Catalyzing confidence

I’ve observed that for some people confidence is more closely associated with doing (and is dependent on their skills and performance), while for others it is related more to their felt security with others. My suspicion is that confidence gets tied up with doing when parents put a lot of emphasis on competence. When children are not shamed for und

Jasmin Lee Cori MS LPC • The Emotionally Absent Mother: A Guide to Self-Healing and Getting the Love You Missed

INVOLVE KIDS: Plan for Next Year

The post-holiday season can be tough for kids as they return to school and regular routines. Help ease the transition by involving them in planning for next year. Set goals, discuss boundaries, and give them something exciting to look forward to. Tailor it to their age—everyone, even little ones, can contr

Helpful for creating healthier achievement mindset and self awareness. Might change a step or two and frame as self other system or concrete subtle and spiritual

From Positive Intelligence

“Given the ubiquity of the Judge’s conditional love game, I have

embarked on a very different kind of game with my son to prevent a

strong version of his Judge from taking hold. I start tickling him and tell

him that I will only stop if he keeps giving me the right answers, which

he has learned to give over the years. Here’s h

When we tell our kids, “You’re a good kid having a hard time … I’m here, I’m right here with you,” they are more likely to have empathy for their own struggles

Dr. Becky Kennedy • Good Inside

The post-holiday season can be tough for kids as they return to school and regular routines. Help ease the transition by involving them in planning for next year. Set goals, discuss boundaries, and give them something exciting to look forward to. Tailor it to their age—everyone, even little ones, can contribute!.

What does this look like? Here are s... See more

Helpful to create healthy achiever mindset and confidence with making mistakes OR miscalculations

Might alter a step or two and use framing of self other system or concrete subtle and spiritual.

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