i. Parenting
Ideas and reminders of the dad I want to be for my son
i. Parenting
I’ve observed that for some people confidence is more closely associated with doing (and is dependent on their skills and performance), while for others it is related more to their felt security with others. My suspicion is that confidence gets tied up with doing when parents put a lot of emphasis on competence. When children are not shamed for
... See moreJasmin Lee Cori MS LPC • The Emotionally Absent Mother: A Guide to Self-Healing and Getting the Love You Missed
INVOLVE KIDS: Plan for Next Year
The post-holiday season can be tough for kids as they return to school and regular routines. Help ease the transition by involving them in planning for next year. Set goals, discuss boundaries, and give them something exciting to look forward to. Tailor it to their age—everyone, even little ones, can contribute!.
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... See moreHelpful for creating healthier achievement mindset and self awareness. Might change a step or two and frame as self other system or concrete subtle and spiritual
Beloved friends,
go out and find a secret portal.
Walk the shoreline
and keep your eye out for magic.
Pull out that old telescope.
Tell wild stories.
Go outside and dance in the rain.
Do ridiculous things.
Be “that” adult who gets the eyeroll
and the side smile.
Laugh often. Slow down.
Feed the imagination.
Clear the space to be washed over
by this wild and... See more
go out and find a secret portal.
Walk the shoreline
and keep your eye out for magic.
Pull out that old telescope.
Tell wild stories.
Go outside and dance in the rain.
Do ridiculous things.
Be “that” adult who gets the eyeroll
and the side smile.
Laugh often. Slow down.
Feed the imagination.
Clear the space to be washed over
by this wild and... See more
Keep reminding me
Cultivate time away from screens.
Connect with people in the flesh—it’s easier than you think.
Cultivate the new skills that will be rewarded in the future.
Seek out connections with places, nurturing your love of the natural world.
You can still use the Internet—but do it purposefully, not as someone else’s pawn.
Encourage others to join you on this... See more
Connect with people in the flesh—it’s easier than you think.
Cultivate the new skills that will be rewarded in the future.
Seek out connections with places, nurturing your love of the natural world.
You can still use the Internet—but do it purposefully, not as someone else’s pawn.
Encourage others to join you on this... See more
Advice to my son on how to live a good life from Ted gioa via Dakota.
From Positive Intelligence
“Given the ubiquity of the Judge’s conditional love game, I have
embarked on a very different kind of game with my son to prevent a
strong version of his Judge from taking hold. I start tickling him and tell
him that I will only stop if he keeps giving me the right answers, which
he has learned to give over the years. Here’s
... See moreSpend lots of (phone-free) time with her
Show her that the world is a fun and fascinating place
Encourage her to reason from first principles
Don’t interrupt her when she’s focused or daydreaming; help her learn to be entertained by her own mind
Refrain from imposing lots of little rules, but where there are rules, be firm about them
Build... See more
Show her that the world is a fun and fascinating place
Encourage her to reason from first principles
Don’t interrupt her when she’s focused or daydreaming; help her learn to be entertained by her own mind
Refrain from imposing lots of little rules, but where there are rules, be firm about them
Build... See more
Guidelines to remember - don’t over complicate it
Parents think they can hand children permanent confidence—like a gift—by praising their brains and talent. It doesn’t work, and in fact has the opposite effect. It makes children doubt themselves as soon as anything is hard or anything goes wrong. If parents want to give their children a gift, the best thing they can do is to teach their children... See more
Carol Dweck • Mindset: The New Psychology of Success
Catalyzing confidence
26 weapons grade parenting tips:
1/ Give them a "heads up," 5 minutes until bedtime, 10 minutes before leaving the playground
2/ Look at the world more through their eyes
3/ Don’t discipline like an angry madman. Stay calm and firm, model how you want THEM to... See more
Paternal Legacyx.comthought-provoking idea from James Clear:
If you want a plant to grow, you can fuss over it every day—watering, weeding, moving it toward the sun. Or you can place it in the right soil and let nature do most of the work. A seed planted in the right spot often thrives on its own. Life is much the same. Progress is not only about how hard you work, but... See more
If you want a plant to grow, you can fuss over it every day—watering, weeding, moving it toward the sun. Or you can place it in the right soil and let nature do most of the work. A seed planted in the right spot often thrives on its own. Life is much the same. Progress is not only about how hard you work, but... See more