Parenting
Principles, ideas, and approaches to parent well.
Parenting
Caretaker → Coach
To develop kids into maturity, you have to evolve from a caretaker to a coach starting around age five
Coaching = High standards + high edification
Ask great questions so they can grow
From Scott Donnell
Getting Kids to Take Personal Responsibility
Connect taking personal responsibility for chores, morning and evening routines, school, getting ready for events/sports, to having more responsibility
You shouldn’t have to continually tell your kids what to do next
If they want more freedom, they needs to show taking personal resposibility
From Scott
... See moreSpeedy Clean After Meal Party (SCAMP)
Turn on fun music
5 to 10 minutes
Everyone has an assigned job they consistently do
Dishes, picking up toys, taking out trash, etc.
From Scott Donnell and the Johnson Family
Speak Identity Into Your Kids
You are made in the image of God
You are loved
You are chosen
You are brave
You are strong
You are beautiful
God has a plan for your life
Four questions to ask daughters from Scott Donnell:
1) How do you feel?
2) Is there anything I can do to help you right now?
3) Can I tell you something I really appreciate about you?
4) Can I pray for you? (a < 30 second prayer of blessing over them)
the conclusion you reach might be somewhat radical: That is, once you have enough money to take care of your family’s basic needs, then by going to work to earn more money, you might actually be depleting your kids’ inheritance because you are spending less time with them! And the richer you already are, the more likely this is to be true.
Bill Perkins • Die With Zero: Getting All You Can from Your Money and Your Life
- A child-centered home inhibits awareness of others. When we focus all our time and attention on our own needs, it’s really hard to see the needs of other people.
Kristen Welch • Raising Grateful Kids in an Entitled World: How One Family Learned That Saying No Can Lead to Life's Biggest Yes
Do what’s best for your child. Don’t be too concerned about what other kids or other parents might say.
Leonard Sax • The Collapse of Parenting: How We Hurt Our Kids When We Treat Them Like Grown-Ups
If our families are to be all that they are meant to be—schools of wisdom and courage—they will have to become more like the church, households where we are actively formed into something more than our culture would ask us to be.