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Which brings me to my next point: the incentive should always be meeting in real life. Matching, exchanging numbers, texting is great, but the end goal of the app should push the meet. It’s strange that apps haven’t done this.
David Titarenco • RFC: Let’s Disrupt Dating Apps
the rise of supper/running/vinyl listening clubs - all meant to become that third space for serendipitous connection
think about book club in New York!
The seeds of intimacy are time and repetition. We choose each other again and again, and so create a community of two.
Esther Perel • Mating in Captivity
In 2024, everyone is yearning – but what for?
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Evan Armstrong • The Art of Scaling Taste
making scale the process not the work
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modern love dictated by reality, rather than cultivated through serendipity
2. Focus on having a good time. The “conversion” shouldn’t be a match, it should be having a fun night out.
David Titarenco • RFC: Let’s Disrupt Dating Apps
less outcome, more process - a new way of dating? is this potentially linked to exploration?
Potential link to timeline decline
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changing face of masculinity
We are deeply into sex, but at the same time, deeply at odds with it, often misunderstanding our own urges, needs, and desires. We judge our sexual longings, we curtail our desires, and we cut ourselves off from all that it affords us. We convince ourselves that we just don’t need it or want it. This is a problem that speaks to an unhappiness at
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