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Prioritizing pure feeling, so the idea goes, leads to people choosing bad, unsuitable partners, to acts of desperation and violence, to shirking your duties. That love can also be an incredibly redemptive force meshes uneasily with our sense of individualism, with our Protestant ethics. Controlling it requires an entire normative framework.
The seeds of intimacy are time and repetition. We choose each other again and again, and so create a community of two.
Esther Perel • Mating in Captivity
The more people who buy a product, the further the product’s message spreads, the more money the company makes, the more they can invest in their projects. It's a virtuous cycle of creation and consumption. By making scale—the number of people who use or see the creation—an explicit part of the art’s statement, they naturally marry the business’s... See more
Evan Armstrong • The Art of Scaling Taste
making scale the process not the work
New Yorkers Are Turning to Dinner Party-Style Restaurants to Make Friends (and Find Dates)
Eaterny.eater.comLike girls, boys openly express their desire for genuine connections with others, including with boys. They reveal the human capacity for mutual understanding, care, and empathy and demonstrate remarkably astute abilities to read the human world. Yet as they reach middle to late adolescence and as expectations of manhood intensify, they begin to... See more
changing face of masculinity
Falling in love seems to happen mostly either by a process of osmosis or simple familiarity (and a lot of waiting) or by setting intentions of seriousness and weeding out partners who don’t share them. Sometimes, it happens randomly. Sparks fly. You’re reminded why there’s so much poetry, so much music, so many stories, so many cautionary tales... See more
modern love dictated by reality, rather than cultivated through serendipity
2. Focus on having a good time. The “conversion” shouldn’t be a match, it should be having a fun night out.
David Titarenco • RFC: Let’s Disrupt Dating Apps
less outcome, more process - a new way of dating? is this potentially linked to exploration?
Potential link to timeline decline
I told someone recently I was looking for love who responded “in this economy?" I feel pathetic admitting this, someone else texted me, but I want a boyfriend. When I scroll through TikTok, skinny women wearing sweatbands dole out romantic advice: if he wanted to he would, no sex until the third date, how to get him to commit, red flags, green... See more