on love

It’s much better to view potential romantic partners as seeds, not fully grown trees. We can ask ourselves: “is this a connection I can grow into love” Not: “does this person already tick every box I have for a partner.” The important thing is what quality of... See more

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The search for any kind of love, I now believe, is a continual process of looking in and out. Looking inwards to understand yourself, to be curious about your needs and desires and gifts and flaws, to develop generosity and self-compassion. Then looking outwards to use the power those things give you to love other people, and the life you are

Natasha Lunn • Conversations on Love: with Philippa Perry, Dolly Alderton, Roxane Gay, Stephen Grosz, Esther Perel, and many more

Intimacy, I’ve found, has little to do with romance. Maybe it is the opposite of romance, which is based on a story written by someone else. It is a closeness to another person that requires closeness with oneself. It is not watching lightning strike from the window but being struck by it.

Melissa Febos • Girlhood

I have since learned that recognizing the invisible parts of oneself in another person can feel like a radiant kind of love. It can make those parts stronger inside you.

Melissa Febos • Girlhood

Frequently I ask myself do I love the idea of love more than the reality of it? Do I crave the rush, the electricity of being wanted, the giddy, intoxicating high of knowing I am on someone's mind? Or do I want what comes after the steadiness, the choice, the kind of love that lingers when the thrill fades?

love, love, love and everything in between

I want love. Of course, I do. But I fear what it takes from me. I fear the way I let it rearrange me, the way it demands space in my mind even when I fight it. I fear how I lose myself in the wanting.

I used to think love would arrive with certainty, that I would just know . That love would be an unshakable thing, a home I could step into without... See more

love, love, love and everything in between

It’s ridiculous, really, the way a person can slip into your life and suddenly, their name is stitched into the quietest corners of your mind. How even in their absence, they exist in everything.

love, love, love and everything in between

Trust yourself: be who you are and amplify your signal. That’s how you find your people, and that’s how they find you. If something doesn’t feel right, or if you feel like you are forcing a connection more than it’s flowing, trust that there is someone else or somewhere else where you are meant to be instead.

Isabel • same wavelength

We underestimate how much feeling seen has to do with the other person understanding how and why you make the choices that you do. If there is too large a gap between how you both approach life, it can be nearly impossible to feel fully understood by them, and conversely: for you to understand them. You’re just different. And that’s okay! We’re not... See more