On love, limerence, and other-significant-others
If you want to be loved, find something you love. People can sense it when you have something you’re dedicated to. No one wants the burden of being the answer to your dissatisfication.
The person those entries were about hasn’t crossed my mind in months. But, at the moment, it was potent. It was real to me. Now? I couldn’t even tell you what the color of their eyes were. Isn't that just the most 20-something, melodramatic moment of intensity? Where it feels like both nothing and everything matters? I live, live, live for that.
Harry Lada • Someone Break My Heart PLEASE!!!!!!!
I always make the distinction between love stories and life stories. There’s many more people you can love than people you can have a life with.
Nayeema Raza • Feeling Unsatisfied? Blame ‘Romantic Consumerism,’ Says Esther Perel
We tend to assign different meanings and values to certain relationships, which then flattens the connections we might have. But the truth is that the heart of every connection is its very own thing.
Celine Song Explains Why Her ‘Past Lives’ Is ‘Not at All About a Love Triangle’
Relational ambivalence is exhausting because it forces us to live in contradictions, unsure of which side to trust.
Romantic love finds its most passionate expression in private where only one particular person can “unperplex” the other
HEARTBREAK is unpreventable; the natural outcome of caring for people and things over which we have no control…
Heartbreak begins the moment we are asked to let go but cannot, in other words, it colors and inhabits and magnifies each and every day; heartbreak is not a visitation, but a path that human beings follow through even the most average... See more
Heartbreak begins the moment we are asked to let go but cannot, in other words, it colors and inhabits and magnifies each and every day; heartbreak is not a visitation, but a path that human beings follow through even the most average... See more
Courage changes things and courage changes us. It’s how we become. I have found that there is a “right-sized” fear inside any vision for change, and in taking courageous action we develop a part of ourselves that can talk back to and hold the fear without letting it lead... The courage we need is the courage to fail and stay... The courage to exit... See more
How patterns change, an astronaut's antidote to despair, and the lost Italian art of sprezzatura: living with ease and openness to wonder
In the end, the boy discovers what we all must eventually, if we are to grow into the full bigness of the heart: that in every relationship of trust and tenderness, each is the guardian of the other’s particularity; that to love someone not for the comfort or compliance they can give you but for exactly who they are, the special and particular... See more