On love, limerence, and other-significant-others
A team of psychologists found that the link between authenticity in relationships and relationship satisfaction is very strong. For instance, people who strongly agreed with statements such as “I share my deepest thoughts with my partner even if there’s a chance he/she won’t understand them” reported being particularly happy in their relationships.
To sit with the discomfort of holding multiple truths in relationship is part of how we open our relationships to the ecology. To shift our understanding of relationships from mainstream expectations that freeze us in certain roles, means inviting in new ways of discerning trust and safety that can hold more complexity.
to practice relationship ecology
“Yearning has been showing up in pop culture, with the succession of films like Netflix’s One Day , Bridgerton and the recently concluded The Summer I Turned Pretty all depicting the sweet torture of pining and longing for someone. And it goes beyond the media industry to manifest in the types of content we see brewing on social—people are... See more
Post-Culture by Sibling Studio • From Irony to Earnestness: The Cultural Death of Cringe
At the heart of it, each one of us longs for care, support, love, and generosity. What I have found, is how easy it can be to default into ideals of romance as the strategy to meeting these longings. Yet, the opportunity to creatively return ourselves to the wholeness of village life, is an act of defiant lovemaking to the spirit of our humanity.... See more
Romance: a function of privatization in Domination culture
I believe most people we spend time with should be “low maintenance, high intimacy
Andrew Ettinger • 30 more things I believe
Love, for hooks, is not a feeling but an ethical act, a conscious choice to engage in mutual transformation. To love is to take responsibility for one’s own and another’s becoming, sustaining relationships that enable freedom rather than dependency.
This definition allows for many forms of attachment but roots the concept of love in commitment: a... See more
This definition allows for many forms of attachment but roots the concept of love in commitment: a... See more
Romantic Love and Relationship Anarchism
love does not necessarily need to have a practical end or a happy ending that is legible or tangible
Celine Song Explains Why Her ‘Past Lives’ Is ‘Not at All About a Love Triangle’
The person those entries were about hasn’t crossed my mind in months. But, at the moment, it was potent. It was real to me. Now? I couldn’t even tell you what the color of their eyes were. Isn't that just the most 20-something, melodramatic moment of intensity? Where it feels like both nothing and everything matters? I live, live, live for that.
Harry Lada • Someone Break My Heart PLEASE!!!!!!!
Most of us have never experienced the kind of love that transforms you and expands your interiority, so we don’t realise it’s out there. But it is and it exists. Once you’ve experienced it, you can’t go back to the mimicry, because it feels like a sorry excuse for the real thing.