On love, limerence, and other-significant-others
Heartbreak is how we mature; yet we use the word heartbreak as if it only occurs when things have gone wrong: an unrequited love, a shattered dream… But heartbreak may be the very essence of being human, of being on the journey from here to there, and of coming to care deeply for what we find along the way.
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I think about the relationships I’ve outgrown—because of my personal or political evolution—and how living in cities has meant I could let go of those relationships and form new ones. Whitney makes me wonder if that was the easy way out. I don’t think relationships need to be held on to forever just because they exist. Plenty of us have rightly fre... See more
Notes & Highlights for How We Show Up by Mia Birdsong
And so the trick is, can you force yourself to be absolutely unsparingly realistic about what’s actually best for you?
I believe most people we spend time with should be “low maintenance, high intimacy
Andrew Ettinger • 30 more things I believe

The person those entries were about hasn’t crossed my mind in months. But, at the moment, it was potent. It was real to me. Now? I couldn’t even tell you what the color of their eyes were. Isn't that just the most 20-something, melodramatic moment of intensity? Where it feels like both nothing and everything matters? I live, live, live for that.
Harry Lada • Someone Break My Heart PLEASE!!!!!!!
Romantic love finds its most passionate expression in private where only one particular person can “unperplex” the other
I think all romance is an enduring curiosity for another person.
valley of things unsaid
Jacob Falkovich says that single people often seek out similarity when complementarity is what makes relationships cohere long-term. It’s a great observation. But how to operationalize it? Maybe: look for someone you can’t initially understand, but also don’t feel like walking away from.