Nothing worth having was ever achieved without effort

you need to accumulate your own mistakes for someone to be able to give you personalized, specific advice. And you need to put in the reps to accumulate mistakes. Therefore, the more reps you put in, the more relevant and helpful advice you can receive.

However, it seems most humans are plagued by the tendency to avoid work by staying stuck in the

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Unfortunately, that flabby life is the default we slide into without a deliberate struggle against it. You are always getting weaker unless you’re making efforts to get stronger. If you aren’t finding new ways to push your physical and mental limits, or at least maintain their capacity, they are shrinking. Your capacity is unlikely to be stretched... See more

A realization I’ve had lately: practically anything that’s great in the world is that way only through constant attention and care—e.g. great products, yards, marriages, companies, friendships. If left alone, practically everything defaults toward mediocrity at best or ruin at worst. “Constant attention and care” always requires time and this is a... See more

“Hard choices, easy life. Easy choices, hard life.” Nothing truly meaningful or lasting has ever been created in a short period of time. If you learn the story behind any great success, you realize how many years went by and how many hard choices were made to achieve it. Reaching for more is not only an act of ambition, it also comes from passion

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Almost everything that holds meaning, weight, and gravity, cannot be reached by a shortcut, by sheer force alone. But by acceptance. Acceptance that what you desire for can survive contact with the world, and will yield meaning. You have to devote the time it takes to inhabit the world, chip away at its interior. No one can break the shell for you!... See more

Schmerz ist Bindung. Wer jeden schmerzhaften Zustand ablehnt, ist bindungsunfähig. Intensive Bindungen, die schmerzen könnten, werden heute gemieden. Alles spielt sich ab in einer palliativen Komfortzone. In seinem Buch »Lob der Liebe« weist Alain Badiou auf den Werbespruch eines Dating-Portals hin: »Es ist ganz leicht, verliebt zu sein, ohne zu

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There are necessary developmental thresholds someone has to pass through, and there's no real salve or proxy for it. You can give advice from a vantage point of wisdom, but someone has to go through the experience in order to internalize the lesson. Transformation occurs through multiple collisions with reality. Almost everything that holds

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